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How many times have you been asked if you have got a TV when someone finds out how many dc you have ?

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ImnotOK · 15/08/2008 18:18

I have lost count and it gets on my blardy tits nerves.

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Ready4anotherCoffee · 15/08/2008 20:09

I always grin and blame the beebs crap programming schedules

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TheDuchessOfNorksBride · 16/08/2008 01:15

Oh I've heard that countless times too! Even when I only had 3 DCs.

We also get "haven't you figured out what causes it yet?".

What's worse, we have a Great Dane and everybody says "you could put a saddle on him". .

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Weegiemum · 16/08/2008 01:17

I got that when mine were smaller - especially when 3 under 4.

I still sometimes do and I only have 3, so feel for you guys (am one of 6 myself).

People think they are so funny.

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reban · 16/08/2008 14:11

yes that was the standard response when i announced i was pregnant with number 4 .. people genuinely seem to think there must be another reason for me being pregnant other then we actually wanted another baby

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ImnotOK · 16/08/2008 14:16

People think they are so witty too.
"Ohh are they all yours love?"

My favourite

"Are you having anymore?" Sod off you nosey twunts

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tots2ten · 17/08/2008 11:47

I got asked recently when talking the kids shoe shopping, 'are they all YOURS' with a look of horror on the womens face. (i have 5) I just told her i kipnapped the older 2 from tesco's, that one is from asda, she is from corner shop and the baby is mine.

I walked away laughing while she looked that i answered back.

my bil keeps mentioning about buying a new tv as our cant be working properly.

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Ready4anotherCoffee · 17/08/2008 13:20

tbh, the one that annoys me the most is "oooh, you've got your hands full". usually when they are being quite angelic. When they play up I seem to get lots of the 'she shouldn't have kids if she can't control them' kinda stares, and I only have 3 (all under 5)

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misscutandstick · 17/08/2008 17:46

my usual answer when someone looks like they are going near the classic "have you got a tv?" line is:

Yes, in all rooms, no - we are not catholic, No - we are not growing a football team, No - we are not trying for a girl and YES - i do know whats causing it: thats WHY we have 5 children. HAve i missed anything, and can we move on?

It takees the wind right out of their sails.

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3Ddonut · 17/08/2008 17:57

When I get asked if we have a TV, I say, yes, it's in the bedroom

I got asked if I were a childminder once, and I only have 3!!!!!

Thinking about it, I got asked by an old teacher of mine, 'which two are yours?' I said, I've got three and he was so shocked three??? err, yeah.

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OurHamsterisevil · 17/08/2008 20:38

Love that Misscutandstick.
My FIL always says to pg women do you know what causes it. It sounds totally pervy to me.

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nancy75 · 17/08/2008 20:40

my nan (who had 14) was always asked if she liked hospital food!

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ScottishMummy · 17/08/2008 20:56

sorry am i being silly- what is the connection between tv and large family?do you get jip from folk?

i come from large family, we had tv...

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Ready4anotherCoffee · 17/08/2008 21:34

they are implying that you only have lots of kids cos you have nothing else to do in the evening

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ScottishMummy · 17/08/2008 21:52

oh nowt on the telly so.... lol never heard that expression

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daffodill6 · 17/08/2008 22:43

Really jealous..... dd is a singleton ... and so am I.... more seems fun to us....

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KayHarker · 22/08/2008 16:42

Dh usually responds with 'Yes, it's all the porn that sets us off' because he's a bit ruder in RL than I am.

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clm0711 · 02/09/2008 11:37

i have five and i get so fed up with the comments.worst are the shop assistants condoms are 'bogof'!, have they all got the same dad? how insulting.
then there are the people who tell you not to have any more.
i dont think a day goes by when i dont get a comment from someone. the funniest is 'dont you know what causes that yet?' best reply 'yes and we do enjoy it'
but as usuall i think the woman takes the abuse my partner doesnt have to endure the same reactions a i do.

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interflora · 05/09/2008 17:38

hahahahahaha clm the 'yes and we enjoy it' got me laughing so much I fell of my chair!!!! I never thought of that one...I will definitely use that one!!! hahaha

With 7 kids - as you can imagine have heard it all by now........and told not to have any more, or 'when's the next one due'...seems there are loads of very sad people around! Even got told by somebody the other day that 'I will suffer for having so many children as I get older as my body will soon pack up'...really?? it seems their heads have already packed up!!!!

The person who answered when asked if they have a telly..their answer got me into laughing fit also..........'its the naughty ones that get us going' hahahahaha

Does anyone have any more tips on what to tell these sad and nosey, nothing better to do individuals??? Keep em coming!!!

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tigga · 12/09/2008 20:55

'We use our telly to keep the little ones entertained while we are making them a new sibling' and 'Your sex life must be so boring if you'd rather watch telly than go to bed'

Oh and to the 'Don't you know what's causing them yet?' I say 'No, could you explain it all to me please?'

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chankins · 12/09/2008 21:03

I have 3 dc and cm too, so when I have them all together, (quite often involving combinations of double buggy, buggy board and my ds in his sling) I can barely walk down the street without being stoppped by mostly older people who want to ask "are they all yours ?"
The other day two old ladies literally stood open mouthed and watched us go by before asking are they all yours, when I said no not all of them I childmind, the relief washed over her face and she said "o good I'd feel sorry for you if they were !"

I felt so pissed off ! How rude ! I said "O I wouldn't mind if they were all mine, they're lovely ..." and walked off.

Get the same comments all the time, "you've got your hands full" blah blah blah... I think I need a big sign on me with large print saying "NO THEY ARE NOT ALL MINE I CHILDMIND BUT IF THEY WERE ALL MINE WHAT BLOODY BUSINESS IS IT OF YOURS ?"

I can't wait to get pg again one day soon and be pushing my double buggy/board.sling combo, with dds at the side, and a big fat pg tummy !

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Ohforfoxsake · 12/09/2008 21:15

Same happened to me yesterday. Walking to school, two boys walking, holding the buggy, chatting to me, two girls in the buggy. All being beautifully behaved and lovely. Walk past another mum with pram, she says
'Are they all yours?"
"Yes" said I.
"Oh Maaaan!" she said horrified.

She really, really pissed me off.

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tigga · 13/09/2008 09:23

Sometimes you feel like you might as well ring a bell and shout 'unclean, unclean'

I know what gets said behind my back at the school gates too because there is another Mum at the school with 9 and before I had the last 2 I heard what they said about her....I guess the same is said about me now (although I've stopped at 8).

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juuule · 13/09/2008 10:33

Don't you think that people are just gasping because they know the hard work that looking after children and babies entails. Then they try to come up with a witty comment. Which when you are tired (cos babies and children are hard work at times) just doesn't sound that funny.
I don't think most people mean the comments in a bad way. The odd one or two might... but then they are odd.
Lots of small children all together always attracts attention. I've done a double-take myself sometimes when I've seen someone out and about with a few. I don't mean any harm by it and if I did comment it would be sympathising/empathising not judging.
These days I try to not take comments as a judgement of my life as I realise that most are not meant that way. However, in the early days, when I first went over the number of children people thought was normal, I did take offence more easily. But I realise now that it was mostly my problem with feeling different and feeling baby-fog tired and becoming defensive when it wasn't necessary.

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trioand3 · 13/09/2008 22:58

i had natural triplets on my 4th pregnancy. people tried to stand in front of the pushchair and stop me getting past. i had so many comments made at me. my friend used to tell people that the triplets all had different dadsbut most of all the people that were negative were those who were struggling to cope with 1 child.

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knockedgymnast · 13/09/2008 23:23

I love the fact that on first contact these 'busy' bodies try to sound 'genuinely' concerned like "oh what lovely kids you have" and then drop the bomb shell..

I remember when my 3 DC's were younger. My dd was about 19 months and twin ds's were about eight weeks. Some old women approached me in the local supermarket as she felt it was her mission to find out whether these children were all mine and how old they were. When I patiently explained that my 2 ds's were twins, she said "oh, so you've only been pregnant twice then?" The look of relief on her face !?! WTF!! At the time I was spitting!! lol