Feel like I'm going crazy!

[Jojobach]

Hi All,

I have 2 weeks left until I give birth to my fourth child. I have 3 boys at present that are 7, 5 and 2. They are wonderful kids but they are driving me mad! My other half is exhausted as am I. The house is just going down hill. I spend all my time picking up, cleaning and repicking up.

I am really short tempered with the kids and just a complete bitch to my poor hubby. Everything feels like its too much! And to top it all off I just feel so guilty about how I feel and how awful I'm being toward everyone.

To be honest, I just feel like im slowly going insane.

If I'm like this now how am I going to cope after the baby is born? What if I can't cope after the baby is born?

Any advice, guidance or just words of encouragement would be gratefully received

Thanks
Jo

[CherryPie3]

Oh hun first of all big hugs!!

I have 3 with none on the way yet and I often feel like this. It's non stop with no end in sight but then at the end of each day when I've picked up the last price of Lego, I just grab 5 minutes.

When I was pregnant I was horrible to DH as well, in each of my pregnancies...hormones have a lot to answer for!!!

It will all be fine :)

[AppleCrumples]

Hi jojo I have 4 dc and i really felt exactly as you described when expecting dd2. It was xmas, the house was too small and the kids were driving me cracked.

Honestly it does get better! I found everything so much easier once i was no longer pregnant and coukd actuallu get comfy... and hand thw baby to dp!

Oh and i was evil, properly evil when pregnant especially with no4. Have spent the last 18 months apologising :)

[AppleCrumples]

Ooh just to add am sure you will cope fine when the baby arrives. Make sure your dp pulls his weight.

My ds2"kindly took it on himself to do the washing up because i 'needed some rest'. He was 7. Accept any helpful offers!

Good luck

[Monopolice]

Better out than in! At least when you have the baby you will be able to touch your toes, have squishy newborn smelling cuddles, and be slightly less hormonal.

[NAR4]

I agree, def hormones.

Get some large plastic boxes and when you feel the urge to pick up toys, simply get the children to help put them in the boxes. You can sort them and put them away when children are all asleep, or relax.

Limit the amount of toys the children can get out at any one time and do your best to establish the rule of putting something away before you get something else out (the children not you).

It will all work out fine. Your house mess doesn't matter as long as you and the children are happy.

[workingonitagain]

Im close to insanity too 3 ds here and dreading summer holiday. Agree that the mess doesn't (shouldn't) matter as long as everyone is enjoying themselves however in my house that is rarely the case hence im finding it difficult not to get lost (and try to regain some control) in manic tidying then kids start to go (even) more downhill= chaos! Counting down to sept when ds1 starts school and hopefuly will be more peaceful! If i ever consider having another one it would have to be a 3+ age gap i think! Good luck! You will do great! Xx

[4littleones]

I am you but in a few weeks time! lol. just had number 4. others are 6, 5 and 18 months. its better than being pregnant. its bloody hard when the younger 2 both kick off. but as soon as I've sorted one its ok. my main problem is when dealing with the new baby my 1 year old still needs lifting/helping/stopping from sticking his head down the toilet.