Oh dear. I didn't want children when I was younger, I was (and still am really) very selfish and I suppose I didn't want my lifestyle affected.
Dd1 was a surprise but I knew I had to keep her as soon as I found out. Ds followed a couple of years later and things were really hard - DH worked a lot and I struggled on my own for much of the time.
Fast forward a few years and DS3&4 came in quick succession, vey much planned. Now life is easier, I am calmer, more organised and I find things much easier. Only I have just found out I am expecting no5 - we were being careful but the baby is only 15 weeks and toddler 18 months and it just seems so frightening.
DH absolutely doesn't want a 5th, mainly I think as he is looking forward to putting baby days behind us and getting on with our lives.
I'm so torn, could I terminate a pregnancy having carried and nurtured 4 babies. Is it fair to the other children to carry on, especially if my husband ends up resenting me for the rest of our lives?
I work full time (good hours though) and have a nanny and there is a chance she wouldn't want to care for 3 under 3 as well as after school care for the older DC.
Other thoughts include - I've had 4 healthy babies, would I be so lucky 5th time around, would we ever go on holiday again etc money is ok but obviously with 5 there would be less to go around.
It's all such a mess. Has anyone been in a similar position and how did they reach a decision?
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MurtleTheTurtle · 13/05/2014 07:47
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