Hi, was not sure where was best place to post this. I am 5 weeks pregnant, not planned and have two children aged 4 and 2. My partner in particular has found having young children hard though he is a very good father to them - he works in a tough academic field and finds interrupted sleep/ noise / not having enough time for everything really difficult and I know he thinks it has impacted on his career progression. When I told him his initial response was that we could not proceed with the pregnancy and there was no alternative. I was upset but realistically understood this was probably best for everyone. Now, however, he seems less angry about it and says he feels uncomfortable about termination having looked up stages of foetal development. He has said it is up to me, I think he will support my decision either way
My problem is having considered the pros and cons the pros seem very few other than the huge emotional pull I feel to have the baby. I have a consultation to discuss termination but can imagine myself getting right to the point of doing it and being unable to go through with it. Financially I think it will be hard even though we are relatively well off (combined income about 80 000 pa) and I have no idea how we would afford to put 3 through university. I feel worried about the impact on my other children getting less attention, my baby not being the baby and getting middle child syndrome. But then on the long run it could be nice to have 2 siblings more people around etc. Mostly I am worried about my partner's career as this is so important to him and he has already made sacrifices for us to have the two we have. And our relationship suffering.
Please help, I don't want to upset anyone and if this is the wrong place to post please say. I'd especially like to know how anyone with 3 or more who is not extremely rich views the future in terms if how to pay for university.
Thanks for reading sorry it is so long.
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evalluna · 19/08/2013 17:00
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