Hi all. Quick history - I am a single parent with 4 DCs (ages 22,17,7 and 2)
My two elder ones are making no plans to move out. Ds1 (17) is almost 18 and has just left school and waiting on exam results. If he gets what he needs he will move out to attend university - only thing is, he isn't too confident.
I fully expect to get slated for what I'm about to say but I'm at my wits end with my elder two children. I'm not coping well, I'm currently receiving CBT and I'm feeling my elder children are a chore for me.
I can cope with my younger ones - they take up most my time obviously and yet my elder ones constantly make digs about me only having time for the little ones.
Truth be told, as I'm struggling, when my youngest go to bed about 8pm I think that's my 'me time' yet can't seem to get any as my elder kids are still about and I can't possibly send them to bed due to their age.
I'm left cleaning, feeding, washing, etc etc for 4 children when two are actually adults. I can't have friends over as DD1 and DS1 are still up and join in our conversations. A partner is a definite no no for the same reason.
I want them to move out and be independant like I was at their age.am I being completely out of order? How can I get some life back? Any suggestions welcome. I feel awful writing this but I'm feeling very very trapped right now. I feel I've been bringing up children for 22 years so think their turn is over.
Ok, let the battle commence, what do I do??
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Ghirly · 28/05/2013 01:11
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