Hi,
I'm so confused I hope someone has some advice to share please!! I am now over thinking and over analysing my situation so much that I can't think straight so would love some help as I feel like I've gone mad!To put it as briefly as is possible: We have 3 DC aged 9, 7 & 4. I always wanted 4, hubby wanted 2 so a good compromise. Although it did take me a while to get round to the idea of stopping at 3, I was happy with my life (still am) and I've been working hard at setting up my own business. Anyway, last year we had a little accident and altho shocked at first we became really excited at the thought of number 4 and I was excited by the fact that 'what was meant to be...' But then it wasn't meant to be as 2 days before my 12 week scan in December I miscarried. I was absolutely devastated. But I am now feeling very confused. I was perfectly happy before this happened but now all I can think of every single day are the pros & cons of trying for another baby. My 2 big reasons for not is because of the age gaps would it be like having 3 DC's then an extra 1? Would DC 4 feel like an only child, which I would hate? My dc's are very close & we are a close family. The other big no no is my age (I'm 41). DH and I usually talk about everything very openly but haven't really talked this through. I guess I thought I would know what I wanted but because I don't it's difficult to talk about it. I get excited about the prospect of setting up my business and 'moving forward' with things but then my heart just aches for another. I love being a mum and always dreamt of a big family. Today I was chatting to a mum of 5 and I could have just cried with envy. I guess it's a heart/head decision... I'm so confused, please help!!
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MamaVikki · 29/04/2013 22:30
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