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Pregnant with twins, again.

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MultipleMama · 24/04/2013 23:37

Not been on this thread but thought my family would fit right in - hopefully!

I have ds1 & dd (4 & 24mo), and dts boys (7mo) and I found out I'm expecting dts again!

I brought it on myself , I know and they were planned but was wondering how others cope with dc with small age gaps. Sometimes I think I'm way over my head and that I'm going insane.

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amazingmumof6 · 25/04/2013 03:52

congratulations and wow, what fantastic news, you are truly blessed!

we also have 6 (oldest 11, youngest just turned 1) and I love it and really want more!
so what if I'm tired?
It's fab to have a large family and although hard work, it is wonderful that they will be able to share so much!

It's very important that you keep healthy and look after yourself - I used to take multivitamins, fish oils, acidophilus capsules and Solgar gentle iron to keep me going and ward off illnesses. pg and ill is awful.

you will need lots of help from family & friends - also ask your gp or midwife to pu t you in touch with Surestart, dedicated charity to help young families in the home.
mums with older kids and a bit of time are the helpers, who will do no domestic chores as they are volunteers, but will play with the kids while you feed babies or watch the newborn while you aer having a nap or a bath.

things like batch cooking and freezing meals ahead, getting a cleaner (best £20 I spend every week!), lowering standards and being generally well organized will help on a practical level.

how to actually cope with the kids is one of those easier-said-than- done things - you know you need to be loving, patient, inventive at problem solving, pay attention and keep them entertained and so on, but after almost 12 years as a mum I still wonder how to do it successfully!
I hope someone will know the answer!

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lifesisabiatch · 25/04/2013 04:06

Wow that's all I can say, congrats to you and your lovely family.
Let me join you, I'm here to learn.

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MultipleMama · 25/04/2013 22:48

Thanks for the advice and tips amazing. I try to look after myself as much as possible. I'm Vegetarian but taking everything I need to advised by my consultant (consultant-led as high risk birth due to being twins).

I'll talk over the cleaner with dh and I have my father and cousin not too far away for help. We pretty much have organisation and routines set up already. I think I "cope" pretty well it's just overwhelming to be adding 2 not 1 addition haha.

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Leafmould · 26/04/2013 10:47

Amazing mum of 6, I think your suggestions are great, however I think you may be confusing sure start with home start.

Sure start is not a charity it is government funded.

Home start is a charity which offers support for families.

I think.

It is definately worth finding out what you have in the way of these services in your locality, because it does vary.

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amazingmumof6 · 26/04/2013 16:53

leafmould yes, you are right, it is Home-start! sorry everyone!

I always confuse that with Sure start (is that a job agency?) and Start-right (kids shoes)...

I need a PA!!!!

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MultipleMama · 26/04/2013 17:52

I'll be sure to talk everything over with dh right he's already looking into doing the nursery and birth plan! damn him and hos lists lol

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amazingmumof6 · 26/04/2013 17:53

I love lists, tell him he's my friend! good man!

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MultipleMama · 26/04/2013 21:04

He has lists for everything, shopping, expenses, activities etc all on spreadsheets on his home laptop. Totally OCD mad with it! Haha :)

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amazingmumof6 · 26/04/2013 21:19

and now you have a list of his lists!

so have you manged to start figuring things out?

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 26/04/2013 21:22

Well I had similar age gaps to you, but stopped after the two singletons and the first set of twins! At least you know you have the systems and skills in place to cope. Do look after yourself though; two twin pregnancies in such a short space of tine is a challenge on the body.

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MultipleMama · 26/04/2013 22:05

As we're managing fine now, and are coping well. We've decided to look around for a cleaner because I think it'll be a wise investment and save me stressing and him worrying if I'm doing too much.

GF already takes ds and dd on Mon and Fri but since dts are now taking learner bottles as well as breast I may ask him to take them as well so I can have 2 days to fit in me time and look and do a bit crafts.

So we're on our way to figuring it out.

Three I try. I try not to do too much and dh is great at knowing the signs and glaring at me until I lie down.