I've always liked the idea of having 3 or 4 children, not 100% sure why. I have always liked the aliveness of gatherings with my extended family (loads of cousins). I have one DS who is 18 months and I have adored getting to know him so far and each new stage of his development, which makes me very keen to get to have future little people to get to know. I also (as an adult) like having a sister, even though we're not particularly close, so would like DS to have at least one sibling.
But a few things are pulling me the other way. DS was always a terrible sleeper (did really well last night, 7.30pm-4.20am before he woke - normally he still wakes a couple of times for a BF - but when an hour and a half of trying didn't get him back to sleep after that we got up) and I barely hold it together sometimes. I can't imagine how I'd meet the needs of older DC if my subsequent DC slept as badly - we're intending to home educate so wouldn't even get the break of school. I also hated pregnancy, and fear another miscarriage when I think of getting pregnant again. I also have a hobby, I don't want to out myself so will be non-specific, but it has a longterm goal that I may or may not meet in my lifetime and it has to take some delays when DC are very young.
I guess my problem is I like both lifestyles! I was my biological father's only child, and it was lovely having the devoted attention, the financial ability to go on daytrips etc. But I feel like DH and I would miss out on so much if I don't have a brood. I'm not sure life and our family would feel 'complete'.
Tell me what you love about having 3 or 4 children?
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Kaida · 15/01/2013 07:24
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