3 years ttc, how to make sex fun again?

[maybemyrtle]

Not sure where to post this but here goes. DP and I have been together 5 years and ttc for 3, with 2 mcs in that time. We're both late 30s and we have no dc. Sex has become horribly dull, is done at the "right" times in the cycle and is basically joyless. I don't feel sexy at all and we're in such a rut that I can't even think how to change things. I suspect that we're both suffering from a low level depression and I really want to bring the bedroom part of our relationship (which is otherwise good) back.

What are your tips for a healthy sex life when long term ttc?

[St4rfish]

Hi maybemyrtle. I have no advice and no answer to your question, but I can totally empathise. My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for 6 and TTC for our first child for nearly 4 years. I had a MMC last year at 12 weeks, only time I have been pregnant. I agree it is really hard, I feel like it has totally ruined our sex life and I hate feeling like we have to/should do it (we try to do it every other day for 2 weeks each cycle). The only thing I try to do to balance it out is ensure that I am as affectionate and loving as possible outside of the bedroom, might sound cheesy but I think it's important to show I love him and that I am not just after his sperm!!