Low sperm count- help!

[Aisling81]

Hi,

This is a bit I a long story so will attempt to summarise.
Partner has child with undiagnosed profound developmental delay from previous marriage who's now 13.
As undiagnosed met with geneticist to see if This could effect out future family (his ex went on to have two healthy kids with new partner) and were told while we were more likely to have an issue (100/1) compared to ur avg couple, jst because he alrdy has a kid with needs, that it is still a low risk.
Started ttc March last year- one chemical pregnancy early June and one early miscarriage (6/7 wks) at end of sept. After mc I started acupuncture as my cycles were messed up- it has taken until this month to be rdy to try again but hubby had sperm analysed on Chinese dr recommendations and he has low sperm count 3.8 mill.

I am devastated- I know compared with other couples we have not been trying that long but this recent news has made me doubt if there is an issue relating to chromosomal defects, his previous child and mc/chem pregnancy.

I know no one can give you guarantees but this feels like there could be another issue. I can't say it to my husband- it would feel like blaming him for the issues with his child and our attempts to conceive. I am frightened to go ahead ttc ...

It really is a mess- I don't know what professional could help me or who to start to talk to about these fears.

I had managed to put aside my anxiety but this latest result has made me doubt things- morphology was 95- which is just within the

[naty1]

I dont know but...
My oh had less than 1m and we now have a healthy (i want to say gifted :) 22m old DD. Obviously too early to be sure.
But surely the delay could have been non genetic and a difficult birth oxygen deprivation etc?
Miscarriage is i would think more on the women's side egg age chromosome issues, hormonal issues etc.
How old is he?
Has he tried conception vitamins?
Avoiding hot baths, smoking, cycling etc.
Losing weight etc

[naty1]

Oops should have said it was via icsi