Sorry for the long title - and this post may be fairly long as well.
I am 23 years old. Been with my 34yr old partner for 2 years.
We've discussed children - both agreed that at the minute we don't really want them but he understands that I am fairly confident I do want them at some point in the future and is fine with this.
To cut a long story short - I had my first period on my 13th birthday and have had a grand total of approx 13-15 periods total in the last 10 years (None of these have been in the last 5 years). I have not been on any birth control or medication that stops them. I am overweight but not obese and have been for as long as I can remember. Other aspects of puberty etc. all happened fine.
I was with my ex partner from the age of 17-21 ... both had sexual health checks which were clear. We did NOT use any contraception after the first 12 months. So that's 3 years of regular, unprotected sex.
Since getting with my new partner we have again NOT used any contraception (after all sexual health checks etc...). Which is another 2 years of regular, unprotected sex.
(I realise that having sex without protection when you don't want children is silly and that I was taking a massive gamble...but obviously am still childless. I do not advise anybody else who is fairly confident they have fertility issues to try this)
I obviously have something going on. I am not having periods and am clearly not ovulating. I have tried ten dozen times to get the doctor to look into this for me but he keeps fobbing me off - "You're young" "You're not even trying to TTC" - and I am getting increasingly annoyed by this. So annoyed I have now swapped doctors.
I worry that if I leave it until the point when I do want to start really TTC - say in 5/10 years time - that by the time they investigate/find a result/start any treatment necessary etc. - that it will be too late and I will have missed my chance. Plus my DP is already 34 ... I had young parents and I loved having young parents ... I don't want to wait and him be too old to do things with DC if we have them.
Should we start TTC ... knowing that we will have to do it for x amount more time before doctors will investigate and then have the tests etc. in the hopes that we may fall pregnant with some help in 3/4 years ... and risk getting pregnant sooner? Or is it wrong to start TTC when we don't actually want a child right now? I have a new business to look after etc. and financially right now is not a good time but I am scared of leaving it until it is a good time and then doing the tests, trials, TTC etc. and not getting a child at the end of it because we left it too late. I think I would rather have a not-well-timed-child than no child at all.
Any advise or help much appreciated. Sorry for the essay xx
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Should I start TTC given apparent problems even though i'm not ready?
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Quizzimodo · 18/03/2014 21:15
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