Is it ok to have a little moan here?

[UnicornSparkles]

Hi, I'm new here. I posted on the ttc boards a couple of years ago but have been more or less a lurker since! I wasn't sure if this was the right place to post but I feel like I'm in limbo at the moment and don't really know who I can talk to about it!

I'm stuck in that middle ground between ttc for yonks and being referred to a specialist. Have been trying for 29 months now with no luck, had all the tests at the GP, nothing came up. Someone forgot to post the letter to the fertility department at the hospital so it was only after another 6 months when I enquired about how that initial appointment was coming along that we were even referred . But that's fine, something is happening, hooray! Now just patiently waiting to hear from the hospital and get started on this leg of the journey.

But I am just constantly disappointed by my period. Every month, like clockwork (where was this regularity when I was a teenager and (shudder) wore white jeans and miniskirts?!) I get my period and have a little cry about it. Logical me is totally unsurprised - we're both healthy, active and still in our twenties, SOMETHING is preventing me from getting pregnant otherwise it would have happened already. There will be investigations and action will be taken. But illogical emotional me just can't stop blubbing every month. It's even worse this month because DH was away for work for 3 weeks and so it would be more worrying if I was pregnant! But still I had my customary cry on the loo.

Anyway I wanted to have a wee moan here! We haven't told many friends about our fertility problems so I thought if there are others in a similar situation who just wanted to offload that might be nice.

[EricaJ]

Hi Unicorn,

It is definitely ok to have a moan here. Most of us (I think) haven't spoken super openly about struggles to people in RL, it's nice to chat and vent!

Also, I don't think anyone here is ever going to say 'Just relax and it'll happen naturally!!' Grrrrrrrrrr :)

We have been trying for over two years, had an mc and cp in the first year but nothing in the last 15 months. We've been tested and we are both healthy so we are 'unexplained'. I have been on Clomid, Ovitrelle, progesterone and baby aspirin for three months but so far no luck. IUI next I think!

Don't want to freak you out though! Hopefully they'll find the cause it's not happening for you right now and offer a solution/treatment.

Can I ask you if you know when you ovulate or use OPKs?

[RubySlippers77]

Hi Unicorn,

It is 100% fine to have a little moan - I hope you feel better now!!

I too had a cry today when AF arrived although logically I knew there was very little chance. We've been TTC for a year now and I am so bloody fed up of the whole thing, including seeing people get PG seemingly straight away, my OH's parents wondering when we'll pop out our first, and my GP telling me not to worry...

Like you I haven't told many people in RL, although I may have to when I bash OH round the head for saying "what will be, will be" one too many times. Grrrr.

Anyhow, hope this makes you realise that you are not alone!!