Hi all, my DSis is almost 36 and has been TTC for just over two years.. After a year of no BFP she had testing done. They found under active thyroid which she now takes medication for and also a polyp in her uterus which has been removed. Her DH has been tested and is fine. Consultant's conclusion after still no BFP was unexplained infertility. They had two failed attempts at IUI in the Autumn and are going to try IVF in the next few months. I have two children and was very lucky to have no problems TTC but it was very hard to tell her I was pregnant with my second child as I knew at that stage she had been trying for awhile. She was delighted for us but also got a bit upset for herself understandably. The thing is, most of her friends married around the same time as her (she had 12 weddings to attend in one year!!) so as you can imagine the pregnancies and babies are coming thick and fast, most recently her best friend. She is putting a brave face on it and is very pleased for all her friends but having grinned and bared it for so long is starting to struggle more and more with each new announcement... So... how do I support her? Is there anything she can do to lessen the sadness she is feeling for herself at each new announcement? She has historically always been a very positive, cheery person, life and soul of the party etc and it breaks my heart to see her like this. I've suggested she distances herself just a little bit from the friends with babies without cutting herself off from them - but I don't know if this is the right thing to do or if it would help? And I'm not qualified to advise her not having been through it myself... would greatly appreciate thoughts/advice on how to help her cope..
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