Hi.
So, just over a year ago my daughter died at 41 weeks, possibly due to independent midwife errors.
We are coping well and are very strong as a couple but returning from seeing the fertility doctor this morning has left me feeling very sad and confused.
I am 41 years old and this was our first child.
The consultant has recommended we "go for it" in the next 3 months and then our first IVF appointments will begin if I don't become pregnant in the next while.
Needless to say I feel sad and cheated and a whole host of feelings, I was pregnant, I did have a beautiful perfect baby and now I am starting at what feels like less than zero.
Please can anyone out there share with me some positive stories on how I can frame this hard time? The specialist is happy there may not be an underlying issue, 2 rounds of Clomid didn't work, but I have regular periods and sperm are all fine.
I am scared of the IVF process. I have a wonderful, happy fulfilled life at the moment, but can see that this looming on the horizon may engulf the sunshine I now feel since the desperate sadness of last year.
Better to walk away and not try? Can IVF be framed in such a way that it can be made easier?
All me friends now have children and I do actually feel that despite children I have a really amazing life better than anyone, and a truly loving kind incredible husband...
I need this to stay small. A life without children can still be a valid one.
Any words of wisdom happily received :)
Xx
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Stillbirth at 41 weeks and now having to try IVF, first meeting in 3 months. Any advice?
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Appleseed365 · 05/03/2013 16:32
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