Hi, as the subject says my clock is ticking. Brief history, we have been TTC for 4 years, had initial investigations 2 years ago, SA, bloods which showed normal. We were referred to specialist in another area as our PCT did not fund any infertility investigations/treatment at that time, however, they informed us that as DH has a DS from his first marriage we were not eligible for NHS funded treatment. We were sent away with a private prescription for Clomid and asked to come back for a scan and a cheque for £250 each month. The following month we had some serious financial issues and we delayed getting the prescription and starting the Clomid, then the month after and the month after that... to cut a long story short, the Consultant moved on to private practice, and we just decided to carry on trying naturally, get married and hopefully it would happen. 2 years on, and I've just found out that my Trust will now fund IVF for eligible couple and I am going to go and see my GP again to see if there are further tests etc. I don't want to get past 40 and think "if only we had done this, or tried this, or made that appt". I have asked for the NICE guidelines and Trust guidelines and will take them to my GP appt, but she is not very sympathetic and I feel I am going to be fobbed off by her.
There must be something wrong with me, I've had no internal scans and when I have a smear the nurse always comments saying I have tilted uterus or inverted?
Also, is it common practice for the Trust to check that we have children already? My DH has a child who we love dearly, but I want a baby. I want to be a mother, I want my husbands child.
I know that no amount of treatment is a guarantee, but at the moment I feel like there is no hope and at least if I push for something more then that gives us a slightly better chance?
I know I said brief, sorry, I got carried away, but I just wanted your thoughts on what to say to my GP, how to find out further information, who makes decisions about eligibility, is it worth not mentioning DH has a child, what other tests should I be asking for and if you think the fact that we had a chance 2 years ago and didn't follow it up will go against us?
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TTC 4 years, nearly 40, can't afford private treatment, advice please?
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picklepanshine · 09/01/2013 09:45
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