That Fertility issues have any bearing on parenting (positive or negative) and your perception of pregnancy?
I've been pondering this lately. Am 31 w today with DC2. Took us 15 months to concieve DS1, now 3. That is a relatively short time, but that was sex almost everyday an at a point when sex wasnt even enjoyed I dont think. Ironically got BFP a few days after first consultants appointment.
I often attributed that to some sort of resolution to the fact that it was beyond our power.
Anyway this pregnancy we were trying for 26 months but in a different, less formal I suppose, way to the last.
In the interim I was diagnosed with suspected PCO (no S for me) in that one ovary was disfigured, I struggled with weight etc but hormone profile wasnt completely right for PCOS. Having had GD in both pregnancies, I am likely to be tested for insulin resistance as Im having insulin issues at the mo.
Anyway I was going through almost my reproductive life in my head last night, miscarriages, TTC, doctors appointments etc and it reminded me of the feelings i've had towards pregnant women...
I went through jealousy resentment etc and dark feelings, but I also think it led me to be a more intersted friend, as I pushed myself to be, so as not to appear bitter. I was always open about our issues with friends and relatives.
I also thought about how it (may have) affected my parenting. DS is quite a fortunate child I think, he has nice things, he goes out to fun places, he is always well fed etc, but I wondered if I have in the past over indulged him, and the reasons for this. On one hand I went without as a child as did DP so we are compensating for that, but I wonder subconciously If I regard him as hard won?
I suppose im just rambling.. Mind dumping.. But I wonder if im the only one to think about it.
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SecretCermonials · 03/11/2012 08:51
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