How to offer the best support

[Fantail]

My very best friend is currently TTC. She has had 4 miscarriages in the last 2 years, 5 in total and has a gorgeous and bright 2 year old. She only told me (and anyone else other than her mother) that she has been miscarrying after her 3rd earlier this year and has had another one in the last 2 weeks.

We live in different countries, so I can't offer physical and hands on support - but obviously I can offer emotional support. Thankfully, never having a miscarriage I can not emphathise, but I want to offer the best support possible.

What made people more supportive than others? I am aware of the obvious things I shouldn't say, but is there anything that isn't obvious?

[missingmymarbles]

You sound so kind
Just be 'there' for her. Let her talk as she needs and cry if necessary. Sometimes there are no words to say but don't be afraid to ask her how she's doing, and if you're struggling to know how best to support her, then ask her.

[Fantail]

Thanks. Luckily, I am travelling very briefly to her part of the world for work. I will only have time for dinner with her one night, but hopefully that will help.