Almost 20 and will face infertility issues

[LurkingAndLearningForNow]

Hi.
Oh gee..This is awkward. Never really done the whole 'forum' thing before (except for googling questions and being directed to forums.) I have no idea if this is the right place to put this but I am here to learn. I've known since I was a pre teen and diagnosed with severe Endometriosis and PCOS -Unfortunately also very, very, very prone to endometriomas; at least twice a year since I was fifteen- that conceiving a child would be a long journey for me -as doctors have callously pointed out to me since was 12- I just wanted to mark my spot and say hi I guess. Sorry, tad nervy as I'm a 'forum virgin.'

I know there is a long road ahead of me and whilst am certainly NOT trying to conceive now I want to read and learn so I can be prepared for the future.

My admiration for the ladies and couples who suffer through infertility know no bounds. You are my inspiration that one day I will get there, even though it may take years. :(

So this is my painfully awkward hello and probably the only post I will make for a long while. TBH I have been lurking here for months. The wealth of information has not only been inspiring, but very educational. Due to my career choice I particularly enjoy the feminist threads and will probably hide over there until the day comes I am ready to TTC.

Thank you for reading my embarrassing ramble ladies. It's nice to have such a safe space for women. :)

[BartletForAmerica]

I came past this while looking for Unanswered Messages and really felt for you and wanted to answer, even though our situations are very different.

That all sounds very difficult for you. I'm not sure your doctors are being "callous" but perhaps have wanted you to prepare you for what will be a hard journey, physically and emotionally, and not wanting you to wait beyond your most fertile years. A number of us have struggled, even without diagnosed problems, with conceiving once we entered our thirties.

I do hope you are able to carry on reading, rambling, and ranting (MN is good for a good rant with people who understand when it all gets too much, although I avoid AIBU unless I am feeling particularly robust!) until a point at which you and your partner can start the next stage of TTC. All the best!

[HumphreyCobbler]

Hello Lurking. I want to send you my best wishes too, although I have no useful advice for you.

[LurkingAndLearningForNow]

Thank you so much for your lovely words. I try to stay optimistic but sometimes I just get this sick, cold, chill thinking 'how long?'

[HeathRobinson]

Welcome to Mumsnet.

[thaliablogs]

Sorry to hear about your potential future challenges. I do agree w Bartlet, good for you to know what might be ahead and to make sure you start trying to conceive early - the longer you leave it the more you have age to deal with as well as the endo and PCOS.

I have very severe endo and after 3 years of treatment, starting at 37, incl 4 IVFs, 2 lap/hysteroscopies, 2 miscarriages etc etc, had my daughter. 2 years later after 2 more IVFs had my son.

I hope you end up in a similarly good place.

The infertility space on here isn't well used. Although it's ugly, you will find more people on this topic at www.fertilityfriends.co.uk.

[LurkingAndLearningForNow]

Thank you for your well wishes and the link!

Unfortunately I've already had four laperoscopies. :( Can't even spell the damn word!

I get this sick feeling when I think about trying for a baby, a cold feeling of 'how will it end up' you know?