Last week i met up with my post antenatal group, and the above subject was brought up. I know that the John Gaunt show on 94.9 between 9-12am week days also featured this subject a few weeks ago. So i woundered what feedback i would receive from all you mums out there.
If you were splitting from your partner/husband and had children.
And
Mum worked full time such as dad
Dad bought in more money though
Mum 99% took time off work to take them go to dentist, hospital, docs.
Mum 99% was up all night caring for the children that would not sleep.
Mum 90% played with them, read, did there homework with them, diciplined them, and kept them into a routine.
Mumm 90% maaintained the house and garden. Ironing, washing, payig bills, cleaning, cooking, Gardening etc.
Dad 99% of the time never stuck to any routine so therefore (mum would have to start all over again with the routine). Also most of the time doesn't look out for there health & safety.
When the dad has his two days off goes and plays golf or football or is down the pub.
The mum has her two days off and she is running around like a mad woman doing the things the mans not doing.
My conclusion that i gave to my antenatal group was. If Dad could put his hand on his hart and say the above was not true and especially caring for them and there safety. Then you could trust and welcome your ex-partner.
But i think that most of the time the reason why mums are against dads having access. Was because they didn't do the above for there kids and they could not be trusted to take full care and resposibilities of there children.
Much more was discussed but can not remember it all. I don't really know what i would do if my partner and i split up, lets hope we never do.
What do you all think. I hope i don't get booted for speaking about this. If there are any dads that want to comment.
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Louise1970 · 27/06/2005 19:29
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