Just to play devil's advocate. The people who read that tweet originally are people who for whatever reason had signed up to read her tweets, so must have had some idea what she was like. I don't think it was aimed at those who want kids and who are upset by it.

I do think it is TMI, but then I get irritated at people on facebook changing their status so I know what they had for lunch.

I would have really appreciated being able to explain my week long absence around my miscariage to my work collegues as 'I was having a miscarriage' rather than 'I wasn't feeling very well' but I know if I had then it wouldn't have been well received. People would have been embarrassed and shocked if I had been honest.

I've had two miscarriages and I actually applaud this woman for taking it in her stride like this. I also think it's a positive thing for people to be open about miscarriages happening.

Miscarriage is actually very common and a very normal part of life but is not talked about much so if you happen to have one it can come as a huge shock.

I say this as someone who was really badly affected by my first miscarriage so I don't underestimate how traumatic it can be. I just think it may be helpful if people were more open about it so it didn't seem like something unusual.

"For the majority of women mc is a traumatic bereavement."

You can't say that- it will depend entirely on circumstances as Lorem's post shows. I was mildly upset when I had my m/c (although mainly at the thought of having to have a GA- which I managed to get out of in the end) but it certainly wasn't a traumatic bereavement. I had other things going on in my life at the time that were far more distressing.

"It's interesting to see the extent to which women are still supposed to feel and behave a certain way when their fertility is involved."

Agree Lorem - it seems admitting to feeling anything other than distress at losing a pregnancy is still not permissible.

I miscarried my second pregnancy and was devastated. I couldn't have believed I'd feel so much hurt until it happened.

I miscarried my sixth pregnancy and was very relieved. I was shocked to be pregnant and deeply ambivalent about either continuing or having an abortion. Miscarrying took that decision out of my hands and a weight off my shoulders.

That doesn't make me inconsistent. The two situations were not comparable. One pregnancy was very wanted and signified starting a family, the other came a decade later and after we felt our family was already finished.

I chose to have an abortion in my first pregnancy. I was 18 and pregnant to an abusive, much older boyfriend. I didn't enjoy the experience, but I've never regretted having that abortion. I don't grieve it and I'm not ashamed of it.

It's interesting to see the extent to which women are still supposed to feel and behave a certain way when their fertility is involved.

It was a fortunate turn of events for her, she didn't have to have an abortion.

Really, as someone who is trying for a baby and has a miscarriage, I can still see why she would have been relieved when you take into consideration everything going on in her life.

dear god she should learn some composure and to be more circumspect.astounded she saw a mc as a fortunate turn of events.for the majority of women mc is a traumatic bereavement

obviously reading a few posts people feel different to me. I will say no more as i dont want to offend anyone.

This just made me say yuk out loud, and im on my own What a vulgar woman.

worth a read her response in the Guardian.