We've started!

[streakybacon]

Well, we're on our way! After several more hideous episodes in school ds (9, with AS) was in such a state that I really couldn't put off HE any longer. He's regressed autistically about 18 months in 5 weeks. He can?t remember how to have a shower and gets angry with himself as a result. All the work we did encouraging him to expand his range of foods has been undone and he?s barely eating or drinking. All his autistic and ADHD symptoms have rocketed. Just over a week ago, following yet another easily avoidable meltdown in school, I kept off and took him to the GP who signed him off school for a week ?to address his extreme emotional distress?.

While he was off we talked about HE, and we decided to go for it. Dh is on board but not thrilled, but I think will come round. We decided that ds could go back for the final week up to half term so he could say goodbye to his friends, and start home ed on 3rd November.

He went back on Monday and I met with the Head to tell her of my intentions ? she had made no effort to contact me while he was off sick so didn?t know our plans, nor was there provision in place for his return. Ds was in trouble four times that day (that I know of), he was even banned from the lunchtime computer club for lashing out at a boy who punched and winded him, so Ds had to be punished. On Tuesday he lasted till lunchtime when I got a phone call to take him home, and was told to amend my deregistration letter to start home ed from Weds. I?m sure that?s probably not legal but I wasn?t going to send him back anyway knowing how much he was suffering, so I did it gladly.

So that?s where we are. We?re home edding as from yesterday and we feel as though a huge weight has been lifted. Ds is already visibly calmer and happier, and very keen to get started. Wish I'd done this months ago
x

[mumtoo3]

I am so glad that your ds is calmer now, what a relief for you all. when we dereged our dd from school dh was not sure but was always supportive, he has seen her grow and has really come to the idea and has no intention of putting her back into school

Cant believe how rude the school were to you, great to be free of that now though

[julienoshoes]

Oh streaky-what a time your lad hase been having!
The relief for you all must be so great!

Declare yourselves on holiday for a while and just relax. Deschool and let him recover from the damage.

[pinkystinky]

Hiya!!
We will be joining you on monday!! Finding it very nervy at the moment, know im making the right choice thou!

[streakybacon]

Good luck with it pinky! I know what you mean about feeling nervy - whenever I think I feel 'prepared' some other doubt comes up and slaps me across the face, but all in all I know I hadn't a choice with ds so we have to do it regardless. Hope it works out for your family.