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Fostering and Home Ed

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wib69 · 11/05/2014 21:37

Are any of you home edders also foster carers?

We go to panel in June and wondered how the reality of combining the two worked.

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maggi · 12/05/2014 19:23

Hi
I childmind, have 2 kids at schools, 1 kid HE and 1 foster.

It is not a problem as far as we're concerned. It shows that we adapt to each child's needs. However we only started to HE after we had done our panel. When we told our social worker we had decided to HE our eldest she wasn't bothered in the slightest.

But it could affect which children you are deemed suitable for. As an example, a child who plays truant from school would not be encouraged to go to school when your children are obviously allowed to stay home. Also foster children aren't allowed to be home educated (except for SEN?).

Some foster children may value school highly as it is their only 'safe' and consistent environment and it could appear to them that you do not value their school. So you should be prepared at the panel to explain your reasons for home schooling and even if you have had a bad experience with a school you should be prepared to show how you would support the school (homework help, attending events, positive comments about school, etc..).

The panel members may not know much about home educating and could benefit from a quick presentation on the law and your ethos and your successes.


As far as the practicalities go.. There will be plenty of meetings to attend during working hours for which you may need to arrange childcare for your kids if the meetings are outside the house. The training is only offered during working hours by my council so I have to get my own childcare to attend. We are also expected to attend promotional events to persuade other people to become foster carers and again I need childcare for this.

You could be stuck with school runs as there is little council money these days to use taxis to get children to school. You may have to drop everything at a moments notice because a foster child has walked out of school and then you must wander the streets looking for said child. You may have to avoid certain districts because the foster family live there. You have to avoid foster children having their photo taken so may need to drop out of group events briefly at times (which always feels awkward to me). There is daily recording to do which could take an hour when you keep getting interupted like me.

You can't be so spontaneous as you need to get school kids to bed on time, only go on holiday during school hols, and have to get that school uniform washed for the morning.

Oh and I forgot about Contact = where the foster child visits with their parents, you could be lumbered with transporting a foster child 3 times a week across town in rush hour to see their parents for 1-2 hours each day. Not only is that a huge chunk of the day taken up with travelling, but you then have to amuse your other kids whilst waiting for contact to finish. You can probably tell that this is my biggest bugbear! I also have child mindees to look after at the same time. Alternatively Contact might only be six times a year. Or, it could take place in your home and then you have to supervise other adults as well as the children.

I've listed some of the negatives. There are many positives about fostering which I didn't feel I needed to go into here.

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Roshbegosh · 12/05/2014 19:29

In most circumstances you would not be allowed to home educate a child you are fostering. They need normal childhood experiences and interactions as they already feel so different from other children as it is. I am not sure if it was an older child that was permanently excluded or something but that would not be easy alongside your own children's education. You would struggle to be available all day to educate your children at home and then try to get to meetings etc for the foster child.

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morethanpotatoprints · 12/05/2014 19:50

I think it is wrong to have a blanket no, even though I dounderstand the differences of foster children.
Surely, it should be dependant on the childs needs.
This is very interesting and whilst i can't help OP, will carry on lurking.
Does anybody know if this is the same for adopted children?

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wib69 · 12/05/2014 20:27

Thanks for the replies. Thanks for being honest maggi. No good sugar coating it. :)
I don't think I will have a problem atm with fc and school as we want to do 0-5 age group, not having other school runs was a deciding factor in that decision. Our eldest leaves school next year so I suppose if we do end up with a long term placement it wouldn't be so hectic.

Maggi, you're amazing for what you do, we need more like you. Just make sure you look after you occasionaly!

Our HE child had problems going to school, and out of all 5 of our kids shes the only one that has struggled, struggled immensely with the transition, and we had to make a decision based on her needs and rights to an education. I also believe that everyone is an individual and surely even fc need to know that there are many different, but normal ways to live.

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maggi · 13/05/2014 07:54

Morethan - adoption is the only instance where the birth parents have no Rights with the child, until then, the parents need to be consulted on everything from haircuts to school trips, (sometimes this consultation merely means the social worker tells the parent after the fact.). Birth parents would have an opinion on home education. The council usually has the over riding control and if they agree to HE it could be like admiting their schools weren't right for the child. The follow on would then be how many more children are their schools not right for, ie. how many children are they failing. I do know one HE child who is fostered, which is allowed because he has Downs.
Also we have been offered 2 foster children in the past who were HE but their families had only declared they were HE to avoid truanting issues and in fact the families were a mess.
So with an adopted child they are your child and you can do as you please however for the first year they are not fully yours so would probably have to school for that time.

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morethanpotatoprints · 13/05/2014 13:05

Thank you maggi

My interest is as an adopted person myself, although I doubt H.ed was thought about in the early 70's.
I struggled so much at school and had the latest help available during infancy, but it didn't help much as I was very backward and have dyslexia.
My parents worked so hard to support learning, Dad in particular would come home at 5.30 have tea then teach me maths.

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