Hi,
I am currently 22 weeks pregnant with our first child. Both myself and my partner work full time and always have done. When I say full time, I mean I work on average 60 hours a week in a high pressure office based job, and often bring work home with me, so VERY full time. My partner works long hours also.
Discussing what will happen after maternity leave, my partner has expressed that he would like for me to give up work and look after LO full time, perhaps getting a part time evening job a couple of evenings or days a week if we wanted some additional income for treats.
I hate my job, I am bullied daily and the work itself is thankless. I would LOVE the thought of not having to go back there ever again, but I can't shake off the overwhelming feeling of guilt that I would be at home whilst my partner works. I have never relied on him for anything and everything has always been financially equal.
I am worried that the new balance would cause him to be jealous and resent me, although these are MY feelings, and not something he has ever hinted at, and he just tells me not to be daft.
I really don't think I could go back to my current job full time. We have a small holding and it would actually be nice if I could get some of the jobs, like exercising the dogs and feeding all the animals, keeping things tidy during the day (baby in sling), although I realise this is unrealistic initially, so that my partner would not have to do the additional work when he comes home from his job which he currently does (he doesn't generally get in until 9pm which is tiring).
So, it makes sense for ALL of us, yet I cant shake this feeling that I am being somewhat unfair on my OH. Is this just pregnancy hormones or has anyone else felt the same? x
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Cosmomouse · 02/09/2014 11:28
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