Telling dcs going back to work

[Canigotosleepyet]

Any tips for telling a 4- and 2-year old that I'm going back to work please!! I've had bits of evening jobs when they've been asleep but they've never actually 'seen' me go to work. They have both done two mornings at a private creche each week so know and like where they will be spending time but will be there 3-4 long days now each week.

I know I've been lucky not to have to leave them before now but i'm feeling horrendously guilty about going back to work and don't know how to explain it to them without bursting into tears!

Thanks

[JenniMoo]

Be matter of fact, explain it honestly, and give them plenty of notice. If you're emotional about it when you tell them that's going to make it far more likely they get upset.

[Gen35]

I agree, you explain calmly about everyone having to work to pay bills so that you can pay for the place you live, food etc. don't feel bad, your dc have had a good chunk of time with you and the transition back to work and childcare by others is never going to be an easy one for you.

[Canigotosleepyet]

Thanks for that - I think you're right and I just need to pick a good time when I'm feeling upbeat about all the advantages of going back. It's just the guilt - bah!!

[Gen35]

Ah guilt, our constant companion! Think about how nice it will be for them if you can afford treats and financial security, you're doing what's best for them in the long run, even though it doesn't always feel that way.