What hours to ask for and what to expect...... Really Stressing

[oinker]

I'm really stressing -

I've put my request to work flexible hours too. Am I being unrealistic -

2 x 8hr shifts per week - term time only -

U all seem to be doing lots more.
I'm due to return in 7 weeks and I've been told we need to negotiate but have heard nothing back from them.

Unfortunately, being in the police and frontline is a major issue. Been told that I need to be more flexible. Because I've been off for over 2 years (2 kids) my previous job/ role is gone. I have no idea where I am going back to all I know is it'll be in London and no idea what role?!
It's making me feel ill.
My 18mth old isn't even in childcare yet. I have no idea what to request from a childcare provider - hours or days. I'm in limbo!

Any advice PLEASE

[Salbertina]

It comes down to what is "reasonable" for the business ie the police. You need to think of the business case for you doing this work pattern- effect on colleagues, service etc and how to mitigate against any problems. Anything you can compromise on?

[oinker]

No not really. I can negotiate on which days of the week I work but hubby is on shifts too. I have to have a set pattern. DH has to negotiate his with mine when I get mine.
Spoke to several childminders, none would accept the uncertainties of looking after little one. Problems are always start and mainly finish time with police. I have to be taken out of any childcare duties on my work days as there is no guarantee of when I will finish my shift.

[princessx]

Do you have any colleagues in a similar position? You could ask how they've made it work?

Re child care have u heard of mum's help? U can find them on gumtree. They r not qualified or anything, but if you found someone you trusted they may be able to manage the gap between child care finishing and you getting back from work?

[oinker]

There really aren't many females that go back after children the ones that do go back are of high ranks and are mostly in office positions.
Most women I know with kids were in office type jobs but are now being displayed because of the Winsor report.
Frontline first - basically. It's not family friendly at all.
I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I only have 5 years left b 4 getting my 30 years in. I want the pension but not sure the stress and agro is worth it.

[Salbertina]

Au pair?? At least that option is flexible and affordable...

[oinker]

HR manager visiting me Friday. Can't say I'm looking forward to it

[TheChimpParadox]

Oinker - I posted this on your other thread.

You need to go and see the Duty's Office - (are they still about ?) find out what you will be doing - response team or whatever.

You need to get your child care sorted asap if going for a day acare nursery they will want set days each week - so you will have to plan job hours round that.

So say nursery is Mon & Tues - work every shift with your team that falls on a Mon & Tues - exception of a Tuesday night shift - as you will have no child care on the Wed.

If you have a DH or partner that can have kids at weekend - work every Sat & Sun with your shift - including a Friday night shift.

This way the job has you at peak time and you get only two days childcare at nursery.

Don't know about the term time only however - remember there is a balance between your needs and what the organisation needs .

[TheChimpParadox]

I see that your DH works shifts aswell - the organisation will not want to lose you with such experience.

[oinker]

Well didn't see this coming -
No part time work at all! Full time or nothing!!
If i don't like it i have two options resign or lengthen my career break until MY circumstances change. I have a 20 month old and a 3 year old!
Apparently, this is going to be the case for any application to part time work!!!! Statutory or otherwise.
Am fuming -
Will be seeking legal advice -

[TheChimpParadox]

Blimely. - speak to your Fed re

[TheChimpParadox]

Fed Rep even !

[oinker]

Don't really trust them.....
A colleague has advised me to head straight for top dog leagl lawyerCamilla Palmer -

I can't beleive this is happening....22 years Ive given to the police.... All I want is 5 years part -time........

[TheChimpParadox]

Far enough. Can 't believe that they turn down PT work. Glad I am well out. Good luck. PM me if you want to talk job.