Both parents working shifts...what to do about dc's??

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I'm currently on maternity after havin ds3 last month. I became fully qualified with the ambulance service 8 months ago (bad planning I know!) and when I return to work I will be required to work shifts that could cover days or nights. Which would be fine.....HOWEVER...dh works for LFB who are also required to work shifts which could be day and night. Previously I've been happy to leave two daughters with my mum or his mum when the big shifts clashed but with baby I'm not so sure I could ask so much of them!!! Baby sitting in the day is one thing but overnight is a lot to ask!!!

Anyone in a similar situation? Is it best to start looking for a nanny? If so we dont have any spare rooms!! Would a live out nanny be able to provide overnight care?

Any advice would be gratefully received!!

Thanks rota, I see what you mean, yes three is deffo to much, and especially now as girls are at school, both grans are out in Essex so would mean either them staying at ours, or the setting off at stupidnonclock to get them to school.

Private nursery was never an option lol, we tried it for dd2 for about 2 months and just couldn't keep it up, as you said the time constraints were unreliable, and it meant if one of us was held up, it led to a grand theft auto style ride across the capital to pick her up, as they charged £10 for every 15 mins after they're agreed session, even if they were still open with other kids!!!

And old dogs that's good to know, we're going to have to start asking around, I didn't even realise chid minders would have overnight space to be honest! Will start asking around at mien and hi stations if anyone could reccomends, to be honest I've never even thought of that...

We've only ever had one major emergency, unfortunately being in the same area means we get Called to similar events and ain was on shift already and he was called in, no grandparents available and we ended up bribing someone on the childrens ward at my local hosp to watch them for an hour til grandma could get there! Ne'er again do I want to be in that situation!

MrsSpencerReid Tue 27-Nov-12 22:40:54

Some good ideas and I have found places that offer flexible days, however, you need to be able to give a month or so notice and I can't do that, we get our rota at such short notice and oh gets shifts on a sat for the week ahead. We are not allowed to work set days or even have the same day off each week, it was hard enough getting days off for hosp appts when I was pregnant!!
Anyone know of super flexible child care in east Yorkshire?! Hope I haven't hijacked OP

Not at all! In fact I'm glad to see there's others in similar position schadenfreude it's good to know we're not alone, I've had two offers from nannies on here already, maybe you'll find similar

ThatVikRinA22 Tue 27-Nov-12 23:06:00

(and mrs i covet your husband!) grin

ThatVikRinA22 Tue 27-Nov-12 23:10:41

mrs your same county as me - im sure had i looked hard enough i would have found someone but it seems so silly as my youngest is 15 and she would flatly refuse childcare at her age....

Lifeisontheup Wed 28-Nov-12 08:06:37

Think I'm really lucky as my trust is very good about emergency child care leave. My youngest is now 16 but has ASD and so I'm reluctant to leave him overnight yet and they've been fine when DH hasn't managed to get back from business trips away.
I don't know how people manage with younger ones though, hats off to you.

MrsSpencerReid Wed 28-Nov-12 19:19:05

Errr why vicar?! Maybe we have met! Is there some sort of MN secret handshake smile

DudeInaTutu Wed 28-Nov-12 20:05:42

why what?

....sorry am being thick - i dont mean your rl husband i mean your user name husband.....im a criminal minds fan too!

MrsSpencerReid Wed 28-Nov-12 20:17:57

Ah ok grin makes sense now!! He is lush

GimmeIrnBru Wed 05-Dec-12 16:05:34

This is exactly why I gave up my profession, and put my career on hold...DH is also a shift worker. It would have been too much in the early years to pass the children from pillar to post when both are working shifts. I will return to my profession once they are older and in school. It's not great when you both work night shifts and get your roster at late notice (which is often the case).

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