Ds is 6, he is currently being assessed for Pathological Demand Avoidance which is a pervasive developmental disorder resulting in an over-anxious response to the normal demands of life. So he finds it very difficult to do anything he is asked or follow any rules and needs to feel in control at all times, because of this it's almost impossible to get him to 'do' anything that might show his true potential intellectual capacity, the only thing he will do is reading.
He loved books from a very early age and I suspected he could read a bit when he was about 2.5 as he would butt in with the right word when dd was learning. However, when he got to reception himself he refused to read at all. In yr 1, he decided he would read after all, and now is on copper level (stage 12/13 I think), but is reading much more complex stuff at home. He reads an awful lot, last night for example he read 120 pages of Billionaire Boy (David Walliams) and 40 pages of The Chronicles of Avantia (Beast Quest) (only just realised recommended 9+ on the back and probably not appropriate content ) and I think some of The BFG too. The night before, he read the whole of George's Marvellous Medicine and possibly some other stuff. I have gently checked for comprehension (he would not respond if he thought I was testing him) and he certainly seems to understand what he's reading. However, he has little/no empathy so cannot understand that element of what he's reading.
He has been assessed for PDA characteristics by the ed psych and the report mentions that he has 'highly developed verbal skills which reflect his general cognitive ability' although he wasn't being assessed for IQ per se.
He has always had a remarkable vocabulary and strong interests in unusual subjects (eg. mummification when he was four) now he loves all kinds of history, geography, science and nature- but not really interested in anything he learns about at school (those subjects are touched upon but not in anything like the depth ds would enjoy). In fact, he says he hates school and has huge tantrums most days before and after school.
His emotional regulation is about the level of a two year old, in fact imagine the terrible twos in a six yr old and you have ds. However, he has an incredible memory for facts and for events, often prefers the company of older children or adults (his favourite thing is when a knowledgable adult 'feeds' him with interesting facts and trivia which he soaks up like a sponge), he asks a lot of questions that are very difficult to answer and has a good sense of humour.
I'm not saying he is anything amazingly special (although of course, he is to me) but I just have a feeling that we are not stimulating him adequately. Since starting school it has been like the light being switched off inside him and I want to find a way to switch it back on.
Sorry this is long, but I didn't want to drip feed the info.
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popgoestheweezel · 12/03/2013 13:32
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