justred- pour it down the sink if there is any left.

I know this sounds simple and glib- but as I posted before you need to change the things that give you stress, as well as kicking the habit.

In the meantime, visualise a rotten liver- and pour the wine away.

Sh*t am now on glass 2 of red. I have no willpower. I had a bottle left open from friends round last night. I also drink to escape reality and a stressful life, I know it's counter productive.
mother3 I really feel for you - please stay and chat on this thread

my doc is trying to help have to see a alchol counseller but doc would not give me any meds as she just strugged it off as one addiction is enough.I have a trapped nerve in my arm and was taking pain killers but doc said with raised eyebrows dont take them they are addictive not took them since..Been signned off work. Feel my work wont have me off 4 ever so its risking my job.Not sleeping much just anxious all the time cant relax feel like i am being backed in to a corner.At this momennt i think i need obbivilon.wot started me off on this spiral was finding my uncle dead last year.We had to break in his house cause he didnt anwser the door .He was old(87)but he had no signes of illnes.He had to have a post mortem and it was a heart attack.He lived alone and we saw him every week.Lucky or unlucky for us he was only dead 1 day.

I was drinking far too much this time last year. And had been for a long time. Our routine was that DH would come home from work and I would be cooking and we would have a drink - I would have a couple of glasses of white wine. Then we would have a bottle of red with dinner. Sometimes then DH would have a whiskey or something and me being the greedy cow I am would open another bottle of red and have a glass.

So in January I decided I needed to do something about it but didn't want to miss the social aspect of chatting to DH while cooking etc. So I decided to stick to white wine and soda. I have a long glass with about an inch of wine in the bottom, top up with soda water and a few ice cubes. I have about 3 of those in an evening now maybe. A bottle of wine lasts me 4 or 5 nights. And a bottle of red lasts DH about 2 or 3 nights.

Doing it this way has hugely helped me to cut down. I drink more if I go out but still try to dilute my wine with soda water.

I do think sometimes it is habit to drink so much and you need to ask yourself are you drinking out of habit (which I was) or a definite need for oblivion.

I now HATE having a hangover. If i drink too much I end up waking up around 4 unable to get back to sleep and just lying there thinking about what I am doing to my health. So I very rarely do that anymore.

Mother3 if your doctor isn't taking you seriously then you should change your doctor. That's not right and it's not respectful.

I hope you have good luck with beating this. If your dh isn't there it's not right to be in charge of three children with a bottle of wine inside you. It's not just that it's bad for you. I feel very sorry for your situation, three children, three jobs, no support. I don't know how you manage it and I'm not surprised you open a bottle.

Can you give yourself a boost in other ways? I will sound boring but why don't you go to bed instead of having the third glass? Or second glass, whatever, but things would seem more manageable. And sazlocks said about spritzers which also sounds good. Or alternating water with water, like on a night out.

Your situation sounds so tough it could lead to depression. Good luck.

I could, but I don't. It's too much and I think you know it. Good luck!

Mother3, are you ok? Are you getting help? If your dr isn't helping, find someone who will.

i know i drink too much but enjoy it.I hate the come down effects sweating .shaking. etc also the effects it makes me feel.Trying so hard for it not to make me loose my job.It an addiction but trying so hard for it not to be.My doc is not helping much i feel like she is looking down on me.I am prob looking down on my self??

I've been where you are....made myself stick to the rule that i wouldn't drink at all during the week unless it was a special occasion...feel so much better since makin that decision..i still drink at the weekend (too much at times) but def fel in control now

no way
2 glasses top of hangover city