Who can help my foo foo? TMI

[FrillyMummy]

I've not properly spoken about this so please bear with me! I had DC1 on September last year and I tore quite badly. The midwife stitched me up (took around an hour) and said it would heal shut. However, when DC was 2 days old, my usual midwife came to see me at home and when she checked the stitches she saw that they had split open. She said that they wouldn't re-stitch but it would heal ok. It took ages to heal and I was in a lot of pain for a long time.

I don't quite know how to describe this, but my perineum is shorter and the tear seems to have made the other bit bigger. It makes being intimate with DH really difficult. Not only because it gets sore, but also because I am very concious of how different it looks and it really upsets me. It doesn't bother him.

Is there a specialist who would help/do surgery to fix this? My Dr doesn't seem to think it's an issue, but it is. Especially as it's affecting my marriage. Thanks for reading. I hope I didn't put you off your breakfast.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

I would insist to the GP that you are referred to a gynaecologist asap. If GP is unhelpful see another GP or even change practice.

[Sparklingbrook]

Hi Frilly, no experience myself but you may find this thread helpful. x

[FrillyMummy]

Thanks so much :)

[cafebistro]

Yes I agree that you need to be referred to a specialist. Your Dr sounds like a nob. Of course it's an issue! Don't worry though lots of women have problems after tearing/stitching.

[cardamomginger]

You poor thing . Agree with cafe that your dr is a nob. This is an issue and it can be put right with what will hopefully be quite a simple and straightforward operation. You need to be referred to a specialist gynae who deals in pelvic floor repairs.
This is also a good thread for support and advice:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/1688913-Pt-7-Feb13-Any-old-prolapse-Uterus-womb-prolapse-rectocele-cystocele-enterocele-urethrocele-incontinence-pelvic-floor-anterior-and-posterior-repair-TVT-etc