I've just come back from a really awful gynae appointment and I'm feeling really down about it.
I've got 2 DCs, fairly straightfowards births but both times resulted in 2nd degree tears. I've got a skin tag in the entrance of my vagina, presumably the stitches weren't done quite right. It makes intercourse uncomfortable and also the thought of having it there sticking out like a freaky mutant puts me off having sex much anyway. My GP (who was lovely) referred me to a gynae.
I'm also getting counselling for post-traumatic stress because of the way DC2's birth was handled.
So the first thing the gynae did was offer a smear because I'm not up to date. She was quite rough and it hurt a lot, I begged her to stop but she wasn't very sympathetic. When the brush came out I saw it was covered in blood, is that normal? I've had smears before which have been fine, no pain and no blood.
Then when we talked about surgery all she did was say about how it can go wrong, make things worse permanently and how risky it was.
I came out in tears, I don't know what I want now. My DP has been really supportive but I've hardly let him come near me for the last 2 years. I really don't want to have surgery if it's going to make things worse. I've lost all faith in the NHS and tbh I'm ready to just shut up shop and never have sex ever again.
Has anyone had surgery? How did it go? I'm thinking about going private now, DP might be able to get insurance through his work.
Thanks for reading, sorry it was so long.
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Anyone had surgery to repair damage from childbirth?
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NameChanger11 · 05/12/2012 18:45
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