Is there ANY way at all of accessing passworded Word documents if you have no way of getting the password???

[FAQ]

As there's quite a lot of passworded files I need to open on this computer, but I know that I'll never get the passwords off H.....

[mamamamama]

DP reckons if you look online there are various people who will do it for you, some for free but you have to wait a few days. You can't do it yourself.

[FAQ]

I don't care if have to pay......I just want/need to get them open.......

[mamamamama]

In fact I've just put "password recovery" into Google and there are loads

[FAQ]

[FAQ]

thank you VERY much - I have now downloaded a programme and am getting some very interesting reading......

[Blueskythinker]

FAQ, spill the beans. What is this all about?

[FAQ]

here

lots of passworded Word documents he'd not got rid of - and I'm getting some rather interesting reading......things he's posted on dating websites (2yrs ago) - I would copy and paste but it's Sunday afternoon and there could be children looking over parents shoulders......

[FAQ]

put it this way - I've had to take a break from my thorough investigation of the files on this computer, but lets just say I'm now understanding more about why my previously very anti-abortion H wanted me to get a termination when I fell pg with DS3.......

[Blueskythinker]

Oh, poor you.

[FAQ]

no it's ok - I think he's underestimated me this time - I'm sure he never thought that I'd be able to find and acccess his password protected documents........

[mamamamama]

Ooh glad it worked FAQ.

[LuckyStrike]

Good on you FAQ. I am sure it doesn't make pleasant reading, but it is great that you are now strong enough to read these with the intention of building a strong case against him. He really is an arse.

[FAQ]

yeah well I'm not feeling that strong, just been to the bathroom and almost burst into tears, but I need to get DS's ready to go to church as I have an evening service to play for.

Can't believe I've been played for a fucking mug for at least 2yrs though

[FAQ]

can't believe I'd never heard of those password recovery programmes before - he's already cleared off quite a bit off the computer before he moved out - but still getting some good ammunition with the few bits he left.

[hunkermunker]

Oh, FAQ

Want a rant? Or help with a plan? Or anything, really. Am here if you need me xx

[FAQ]

oh I don't know. I'm all over the place again now.

Been cocentrating so hard at making sure I don't get myself "hurt" relationship wise with new man that I wasn't at all prepared for something like this to suddenly "appear".

I've unlocked quite a few documents so far, most of them boring, but one key ones I just can't stop looking at - it's almost surreal.

H was very much a "save several different things into one document" type, so expert from one place, with expert on something different from somewhere else (iykwim). And this particular one has a really random copy of a post he made about cars somewhere or other online.

With one that is obviously copied and pasted from a dating website profile (his own) and the other a message to someone on a dating website at the start of June 2006.

Then going through the computer today (was supposed to be downloading all my stuff onto CD's so I can set my new computer - which my new man bought for me - how's that for irony ) I found some cookies saved under his user status for several different dating websites/adult chat site in 2006, a couple of photos of a woman (and her DD?), oddly uploaded to the computer just a few days before he was listing loads of different websites with information on divorce at the start of Nov 06...

Then there's various escort/massage parlour websites in the last 12 months too...(I called him this afternoon and he claims he never used them as they were too expensive) - but didn't deny (or admit) to fucking around behind my back with anyone that he didn't have to pay for.

That's all I've found so far - but I suspect I may find more.......

[hunkermunker]

Can you think about it as positive?

As in there is nothing you could have done to change his mind re your relationship if he was already absent from it emotionally?

And because you have a new and much better man in your life now?

I can understand the rug out from under you feeling though - not nice.

Do you think you want to confront him with it? How would that go if you did?

[FAQ]

I did ring him after i'd found the websites in the favourties - (earlier this afternoon). It didn't go well - I ended up putting the phone down on him and him telling me that I couldn't accuse him of that as "I couldn't prove it" blah blah blah (can't remember exact words was too angry/upset).

What's really getting at me is that I'm 99.99% positive that if I hadn't brought up the state of our relationship then he wouldn't. I think he was happy just to have "the wife and kids" at home and fuck around elsewhere .

He's rung me 3 times today (each time I've had more "updates" on what I'm finding/what H has said etc etc) and he's just patiently sat at the other end of the phone and listenend to me rant and swear and curse .

I feel like someone punched me in the stomach. Just as I was starting to feel better than "ok" virtually every day my head is just whirling.

I shouldn't even care now - I already knew I didn't want to get back with him under any circumstances so why do I feel so crap?

[hunkermunker]

You care because it is part of your history being rewritten.

So some of the memories you had that were good now have question marks over them - what was he up to?

Try hard not to dwell too much, sweet - think about the future and all you have going for you now you have this man out of your life.

[FAQ]

oh it gets better - when my new man called me just now I was reading out some of the cookies that were saved, and I've realised it goes back even further - one dating website in Jan 2005, and a different one in the September that year.

You may remember that was the year we were trying to set the business up and nearly went bankrupt. I was slightly unsure about trying to set it up but supported him every step of teh way, even as the debts mounted up, I spent hours doing stuff for the business - for what???

That's 3yrs that I have no idea what the fuck was going on .

And he was effing gloating on the phone that I had "no proof" that he'd done anything. God I feel like shit

[hunkermunker]

You do have proof - he is living proof of it, because he is an insufferable prick.

I'm so sorry you're finding all this out, FAQ.

Are you 100% sure he hasn't got access to your joint email, btw?

[FAQ]

yes positive he doesn't have access - I've changed the password for online access

[MarmadukeScarlet]

Technically, legally, you should have made a copy of the hard drive (not that I would be able to) and looked at the copy to see what he has been up to. I know this from taking expert advice when we had a staff member looking at bad porn on work pc during office hours.

Also if you are not adverse to splashing out on assistance, a decent expert can get you every item that has ever existed on that hard drive even if it has been deleted - unless he has used a specific removal programme, but it doesn't sound like he's been that savvy.

[MarmadukeScarlet]

I forgot to say, sorry FAQ this must be really tough for you. A real bloody kick in the teeth.

[FAQ]

well he can take his legally bit and shove it where the sun won't shine as far as I'm concerned. My computer now - I'll view any files I damn well want to.....

I don't think he's used any specific removal programmes........that idea had crossed my mind........