fostering advice needed!

[suziearms103]

We have two foster children aged 4 & 7 they have been with us almost a year and are very settled however my own daughter (20year old) is wanting her boyfriend to stay over at the house, hes also twenty and at uni with her. Hes got no criminal convictions or anything however we dont have time to get an official crb check before he gets here and as he lives in london (far from us in newcastle) will he be able to stay the night or will they have to go in a hotel?! Any answers appreciated! :)

[wonderpants]

You are better asking your SSW than netmums as she can answer for your LA/ agency.

However, when I asked if friends could stay over, I was told they could (as long as they weren't moving in, just the occasional night), but they couldn't provide any care for the child. Obviously the safer caring plan needs to be adhered to.

But you need to speak to your SSW and make them aware. It depends on their policies and the needs of the children.

Hope you get it sorted!

[wonderpants]

Ooooh that was sexist presuming SSW was female! Only done because mine is female!

[mum2tots]

My Sw said as long as we trust the people to stay in our house then its fine, unless they are moving in or you want them to care/babysit

[EyeMyrrhSlapHer]

We allow the foster carers to make these sorts of decisions - if they are good enough to look after the children then they are good enough to make a judgement call on an over night guest. I would however ask how long your daughter has been with the BF and how do you know he doesnt have a criminal conviction??

I would suggest, like others, you ask your SSW.

[Stinkle]

Definitely agree with asking your SSW

Ours won't allow it unless overnight guests have been CRB checked and we have a proper spare room (i.e. no sofa beds in the living room kind of thing)