No-one will notice but announcing my flounce is the only way to stick to it

[BumbleFeck]

This place gives amazing support everyday but none for me

Over the last few months, I've started threads asking for advice/support/help and had nothing. Mostly the threads go completely unanswered, rarely they might get a couple (at most) replies but nothing else.

It's not helping me being ignored here as well as in RL.

I've NC'd for this as I can't actually bear any pity from anybody should they choose to look for my unanswered threads.

So with no malice, just grinding sadness, I'm off

[LizzieMint]

Sorry to hear it Bumble, but don't take it personally, some threads just don't seem to come up in Active and I know that's where I look the most. I find the whole thread structure on here a bit convoluted and tend to ignore it. Nobody would be deliberately ignoring you.
Is it not worth just one more go?

[Fav]

I know how you feel.
I'm sorry you feel like this.

For what it's worth, if you persevere and find the right place to post, MN can be amazingly supportive.

[ThistleDoMeNicely]

Where about are you posting? If it is the boards with little traffic this may be the reason?

Everything ok?

[HeySoulSister]

Stick around, it's been weird here last few months

[BabyGoose]

I'm new here and only look at active threads. I always feel like other people have better advice than I could ever give. Why not summarise your last posts here and I'll see if I can help?

[gamerchick]

It's the active topics thing.. I know I only use active topics and threads can be pushed off quite quickly and go unoticed. Just keep bumping it like some people and you will hit a busy clump of time.

Don't let it drive you off though, it is never personal. I'm sorry you're feeling ignored :(

[CheerfulYank]

It could be the board you're posting on, really.

[Mintyy]

It really isn't personal, honestly. Mumsnet is absolutely huge now and threads disappear very quickly. Its not quite the cosy corner of support it used to be.

[YeGodsAndLittleFishes]

Yes, it is the same for many people. Don't go!

[BumbleFeck]

Oh the irony....

It's fine, I know it's not personal and they are not massive problems compared to others and I'm no more (or less) deserving of help than the next person but I've been trying to get support in RL as well and again, no-one is listening.

It's just all getting me down and unlike RL, I can stop one source of rejection/feeling inadequate by coming off here.

I've have had fun over the years I've been here but it's not helping atm

[orangestripe]

Please don't go. My posts rarely get many answers either. I hope it's nothing personal to me and it's the same for you too.

Ask one of your questions now, while you're in active convos!

[BabyGoose]

I think a lot of people start new threads without searching for similar threads, so there's a lot of repetition.
Hope you find a RL resolution for your problems. At least you know we will be here if you want to come back.

[ThistleDoMeNicely]

Everyone is deserving of help and support if they need it

[gamerchick]

Just because they are not massive problems compared to others doesn't mean they aren't Important. It's obviously causing you distress.

Take a little break if you think it might help but it doesn't mean you have to leave totally.

[LEMmingaround]

Oh. Thats shitty :(.

I think the summer holidays are a difficult time on here.

Have you been posting in the appropriate subject areas? Joined long running threads for similar subjects? Or do what I do and post everything in AIBU? Really hate to think of someone reaching out and not getting support. What might be trivial to one person may not be to another. Times of posting matter too. do if you post at tea time there us more chance of a post falling ouf of active convos.

Pm me if you want to.

[Woodenheart]

I find i

[Woodenheart]

Arghhh

[Woodenheart]

It

[Woodenheart]

It depends on the time of day, I find posting in the evening is much busier. I only ever look on Active threads.

Excuse my phone just now

[ThatsNotWhatISaid]

Don't flounce . I try and look at unanswered questions but sometimes I forget or get sidetracked

Are you posting at busy times?

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

Do you try to bump up your threads? A bit of foot stomping works too! I now found a thread I'm keeping myself to but before used to post and get little response. I would then bump up and more answers would come.

[BumbleFeck]

Honestly, I've posted at all different times and it's made no difference.

I've lost all energy for foot stomping, I just want somebody to actually hear, really hear what I'm saying (that's more of a RL thing than here though) I'm tired of shouting, crying, begging for it all to be passed over an hour later because I am just not seen as important enough.

I just want one person to hear me, give me a hug, a shoukder to cry on and then a good kick up the arse to sort it out.

Although, I'm now crying anyway. Thank you for all being so lovely

[BabyGoose]

I've made a mental note to take an hour to respond to unanswered threads. If we come here for support we should offer it too. This has made me realise that although I'm not great at giving advice sometimes people just need to know someone is listening.

[ThistleDoMeNicely]

Bumble its not too late for a but of MN support. Why don't you tell us what's going on and we will try and help or at the very least offer you virtual shoulders to cry and lean on?

Don't like hearing anyone sound so down.

[QueenQueenie]

Well why not tell us here what it was you wanted support with? Go on...