Bye and thanks

[FabBakerGirl]

I'm stupid enough to think anyone would care but it feels like leaving a meet up without saying bye.

Twice in recent months I've been very upset by posters comments and when they go on x d on it gets personal and upsetting. When I am upset, stressed and thinking about it constantly then it is time to go. After all these people are nothing to me, mostly don't know the whole story.

I've considered if I'm completely in the wrong to be fair and rational but are happy withy choices, especially when I see results and good ones at that.

Bye all. Be thoughtful. Be kind. Be open minded.

God what a pinch sentence that is. Oh well. I'll live.

[Sparklingbrook]

Fab can you not stay and join in on the lighter side for a bit?

[FabBakerGirl]

I feel like this just isn't the place for me any more or that I am part of it to be honest. When I'm constantly got at it makes me question my decisions and I hate that as I consider everything I do and don't do it unless I'm sure.

I also get stupidly upset when my contributions are ignored as it feels like at school when no one would talk to me but talked about me behind my back. Sure no one is, I'm not that interesting and when I was depressed I got a lot of stick.

Thanks for posting though, Sparkling. I was very touched.

[Sparklingbrook]

I understand Fab. Maybe just have a minibreak, and come back?

I don't know what threads you have been on but MN has been a bit odd lately with harsh repsonses etc.

Hope you are ok, and wish you well. x

[TeaAndALemonTart]

Ignore the dickheads and stick with the nice folk Fab.

[EdithWeston]

Fab: try a break and come back. It's not comfortable here - there is far more rounding on an individual than there used to be and I agree it's nastier.

But it is beginning to settle down (last influx of newbies has taken a long time - I was even stalked by one from thread to thread by one 'You here again Edith' as if somehow I shouldn't be)

So if you really feel you can't stay, I so understand why, and wish you well.

[ApplesinmyPocket]

Fab, I get ignored a lot too, I've learned to expect it and not mind! but I appreciate that is quite difficult to do if one was hoping for some sort of friendship. And I do know what you mean, I've been upset by opinions and words on here, not even directed at me personally, and spent far too long feeling rattled and upset about things that have been said.

If you're not getting any fun or pleasure from MN and it's making you feel worse, that's a good reason to go as it can be a harsh place. But I will just say that there is LOTS to enjoy on MN, outside the really popular places - I've recently taken up knitting for example, and am loving a good lurk on the Woolly Hugs and crafting bits, where people are lovely and there are many interesting topics to read. Likewise cooking or even housework topics or Camping can all be fun to read and maybe join in a little bit and the whole atmosphere is somehow nicer than the busy bunfighty parts. I'm sure there's lots more too.

All the best to you, sweetheart.

[EdithWeston]

Sorry, I just looked at this thread again and realised that my post was a bit too much 'all about me' and it was meant only to show fellow feeing.

And I am sorry you're choosing to go. I don't know if we'd ever 'talked' but I do know your name and it's a pity that you don't feel you want to be here any more.

All the best.

[Pagwatch]

Fab
I think lots of us feel like its more hostile here so I hope you can view it as being Mumsnet changing a bit and not as a reflection of how posters see you iyswim.

Can you think about taking a break and maybe blocking some sections? I think aibu is a fucking bear pit right now.

Have a break and maybe come back?

[Joules68]

Fab are you the fab from years ago?? Been here ages?

[FabBakerGirl]

Thanks all.

I'm off to go what I always do when sad and what makes me happy - bake and cook.


Just cleaned out the shed and found two incredibly coloured butterflies so they are in our butterfly net with food - being watched by my cat!!

Also just had a lovely chat with the lady who used to spend time with me as a child and wanted to foster me so I feel less alone.

Thanks again. It's probably time anyway that I go as I rely on MN too much and hide from the world and life by being on here.

[FabBakerGirl]

Yes, joules.

[Joules68]

Oh, really sorry to see you go. You were here when I joined and one of the few regs I remember

You take care, come back if you need us!

[FabBakerGirl]

Thank you.

I also remember you and it is nice to "see" a familiar name.

While upset about what has gone on I still think I am using MN too much at the expense of real life and that certainly isn't good for my emotional and mental well being.

all round before I go.