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Im going, ive been flamed and I dont know how to delete the thread

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namechange100 · 21/08/2011 20:02

Like it says above.

I normally lurk

Cant believe how nasty some people are when you clearly feel embaressed enough and feel utterly stupid.

Should never have posted the truth, as it was used to tear strips off me and my big fat mistake.

Shame as there was some nice posters.

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CarrieOakey · 21/08/2011 20:05

It happens to us all. You need to develop a thick skin and try not to take it personally - somehow Confused

Don't go, this place is a treasure trove of help and advice when you need it or when someone needs you. You sometimes just need to think twice about what you are about to type Smile

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bigun1 · 21/08/2011 20:05

ah love, which thread do you mean?

hug Smile Do you need a Brew

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belgo · 21/08/2011 20:06

I have read that thread, and I am glad you found the ring, if only so that an innocent man going about his work is now in the clear.

I can't believe how quite you were to accuse the workman and report him. You have been flamed on the internet; that is nothing compared to what he would be going through having been falsely accused by you.

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CarrieOakey · 21/08/2011 20:06

Or maybe several Wine Smile?

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nethunsreject · 21/08/2011 20:07

Change your name if you want to stick around.

We've all been flamed - it is just one of those things.

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Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 21/08/2011 20:07

Don't flounce, you did the right thing by going back on and admitting you were wrong. It took a lot to do that.
Some people did give you a hard time that you really didn't deserve.
You made a mistake and like someone said if you hadn't posted you might not have gone back and looked.

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fedupofnamechanging · 21/08/2011 20:08

Don't go. Everyone gets flamed at some point. Just tell them all to fuck off, because I'm sure at some point they've all done something wrong too.

If you desperately want to delete, then report your own post to MN and ask them to delete

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booyhoo · 21/08/2011 20:08

oh dont be such a drama queen. change your name and grow a thicker skin...or not. i'm not fussed.

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peeriebear · 21/08/2011 20:08

I don't think continuing to chastise on this thread is necessary belgo :)
OP, you were very brave to come back and finish the story and take the ensuing shitstorm. Namechange and stay :)

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Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 21/08/2011 20:09

Oh but I do also agree that you were too quick to rush and report it. You need to take something away from this as well and not be so hasty in the future.

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KenDoddsDadsDog · 21/08/2011 20:09

Just ask for the thread to be removed. Lesson learnt.

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bigun1 · 21/08/2011 20:09

ah was it the ring thread, i didnt read it.

Its very very upsetting when you are flamed as some folk are vicious and very nasty. I dwell for a few days so i know what you mean.

Do what i do, change your name, lurk for a while then join threads that are friendly and nice. Ease yourself back in but dont go becuase for that one bad thread, you will have another 100 that are fun, will make you laugh and will offer you great tips & advice.

Its ok, honestly x

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GypsyMoth · 21/08/2011 20:09

Link?

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Honeydragon · 21/08/2011 20:12

You made a big mistake. You've admitted it. Sadly you cannot stop people being bitches. Perhaps one day they will post a thread on how they live their lives of mistake free wonderfulness, till then suck it up and keep posting they'll move on. And if they do make personal attacks report them.

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CarrieOakey · 21/08/2011 20:12

It's all about the wording namechange100 especially when you want to start a thread. Avoid accusations and try and ask questions might be a place to start.

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ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 21/08/2011 20:12

Calm down. Seriously, you will look back on this and cringe. Take a break, and come back when you're feeling less sensitive.

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belgo · 21/08/2011 20:13

I totally agree with you the thread should be deleted, because the title is accusing an innocent man.

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Honeydragon · 21/08/2011 20:14

Bigun has good advice, and if you do nc pm me and I'll make sure I'm nice to you when I see you Wink

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whomovedmychocolate · 21/08/2011 20:15

Missed the thread but it's happened to us all. Repeat the mantra just words on a screen, words on a screen, words on a screen :)

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ChippingIn · 21/08/2011 20:18

Hey mate - don't be daft!! You have to stick around or all of the muppets win Grin

Ignore the twats and stay and chat to the rest of us!!

Oh yes - if you name change PM me!! But you don't need to - it will be tomorrows fish & chip wrapper!

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ginmakesitallok · 21/08/2011 20:18

Don't leave because of one flaming - if we all did that there'd be noone on here!! this too shall pass

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Honeydragon · 21/08/2011 20:19

Yup, I can vouch for chippings loveliness too so contact her

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MatthewWrightOffTheTelly · 21/08/2011 20:22

Just read the thread. You weren't going to win there, some people were just piling in to join in the kicking. But you got some support too. Smile Especially once you admitted you were indeed BU. Doesn't always happen!

I doubt the thread will be worrying MNHQ's legal team too much. You were hardly specific in your accusation now were you. And anyone involved with "the case" enough to recognise him would see how sorry you were. (I do think a gesture to him via his company is a great idea too).

Pull yourself together, namechange if necessary (maybe avoid namechange200!) and keep buggering on!

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Hassled · 21/08/2011 20:22

People forget, honestly. They really do. It must seem like a huge deal to you today (I lurked) but this time next week very few of us will match the name with the thread. Really - let a bit of time pass and then carry on regardless. Very few of us hold grudges/have memories.

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Pagwatch · 21/08/2011 20:27

We all get flamed.
I had my arse chewed in my early days.
It is a rite of passage.
How you accept (or not) that you were being a bit of an arse is the test of character
Shouting 'but they were mean ' isn't the best response tbh

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