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Mumsnet Discussions: Mental health : i can, but feel like i can't do it just want someone to take over for a while (13 messages)

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By yesmynameisigglepiggle on Wed 26-Nov-08 18:57:10

things are just getting on top of me and life feels too much. I feel like I cope alone. I am sick of being the one to help others and nobody ever asks how I am.
I feel like hurting myself just so somebody will take notice. I feel like I can;t do basic things like take my children to school or pick toys up. I know i can but something is holding me back, I just want somebody else to do it.

Do I have a chip[ on my shoulder or does anyone else feel like this??

By sneekpeeks on Thu 27-Nov-08 10:05:30

Im with you xx
Feel like running away so that everyone knows exactly what I do and might miss me

By mrsmortenharket on Thu 27-Nov-08 10:08:46

i think everyone feels like this at some point, being a parent is very often a thankless task isn't it. how old are your children?((((((((((((()))))))))))))

By mother3 on Thu 27-Nov-08 10:13:34

I know the feeling.I just feel like i am feeling sorry for my self and should be greatfull for what i have.In reality i am always babysitting and cooking meals ,house work ,work etc same crap different day..Feel like i am on a treadmeal.No one asks if i have had a good day etc.They are all wrapped up in thier own lives and it seems i am only important when they want a favour.JUST BEING TAKEN FOR GRANTED.I dont want to but i am becoming resentfull and telling them all i need a life not just every ones back up when they need a favour.

By mydoorisalwaysopen on Thu 27-Nov-08 10:28:38

I'n definitely not coping. Crying as I type. Just had the shittiest week and can't seem to "pull myself together".

By sneekpeeks on Thu 27-Nov-08 11:16:30

Its a comfort (in a strange way !!) that Im not the only one that feels like this....
BIG hugs to us all xxxxxxxxxx

By sunnygirl1412 on Thu 27-Nov-08 11:22:42

My heart goes out to you all. I have felt this way myself - it comes and goes, but at its worst, I've considered harming myself. I'm on antidepressants now, and things are starting to pick up - but the thing that helped me the most was my friends - the lovely women that I met mostly through the NCT and at the school gates, who came round, drank coffee with me, let me vent and generally kept me reasonably sane.

I wish we were all closer - I'd love to be able to look after you all, like people looked after me.

Hugs.

By sunnygirl1412 on Thu 27-Nov-08 11:25:56

Yesmynameisigglepiggle and mydoorisalwaysopen - please talk to someone - your gp or health visitor or even the Samaritans. It sounds as if you might be depressed - possibly post natal depression, and there is help out there. It doesn't have to be antidepressants either - there are talking therapies etc. You could try St Johns Wort - and I know that it's difficult to look after yourself when everything is such an uphill struggle - but please try to eat healthily, including carbohydrates. I take a multivitamin and mineral supplement too - because anaemia can make you feel too tired to cope.

I hope this helps.

By yesmynameisigglepiggle on Thu 27-Nov-08 11:54:24

Went to bed last night thinking I was pathetic as noone replied to my thread. Now I see this and so many others feel the same I feel better in a way. Although it upsets me that other people feel like this.

Nice to know it is not just me. I WANT to cope but sometimes I can't. I have had a bad throat infection and not once has anyone asked how I am. I wanted DH to stay off and help me because the kids are poorly too but he can't. It is not PND as mt youngest is 2. It is just the fact that nobody cares.

I am a grown woman and really despite my many friends I am alone and nobody will help me or support me. I really do feel like hurting myslef and pretending it was an accident just so somebody will say poor you are you ok. How pathetic is that.

By stressedsanta on Thu 27-Nov-08 11:57:39

your not pathetic at all we all need some tlc sometimes we do so much for others and get little in return im having a bad time too at the mo but i know i will get better as i have done b4 are you on ad's?

By yesmynameisigglepiggle on Thu 27-Nov-08 12:07:14

thanks santa- you remind me i need to get a festive name! No not on ant d's. Can't make myself go to docs. Have had bad throat for 3 weeks and can't go. Still need to go for my post natal check and Ds is 2!!!

By stressedsanta on Thu 27-Nov-08 12:10:21

please go its not as bad as you think i always feel better when i come out it helps to get it off your chest im in doc's all the time hehehehehe i so want to get better its untrue id hold ur hand if i was your mate and take you there myself

By stressedsanta on Thu 27-Nov-08 12:10:21

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