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Mumsnet Discussions: Mental health : New here...worried about my friend!! Any help or advice appreciated. (2 messages)
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Contact the poster Contact mumsnet about this post By sparklefrog on Thu 20-Nov-08 09:38:25
I am very concerned that my friend is severely depressed, and thinking about suicide. She has been having some weird conversations with me that are not rational at all, like she believes euthanasia should be available to depressed people who want to kill themselves, and doesn't agree these people should be offered counselling first, or they should be able to refuse counselling and have a lethal injection within 10 minutes of seeing the dr. I tried to explain that her daughter would be devastated, but she believes that children 'get over' their parents suicides.
I know she has a rather crap life at the moment, she doesn't leave the house, and she is obsessed with a married man she has been seeing for 8 yrs, although she knows it wont go anywhere and that upsets her because she loves him (although they only ever have sex, then he goes, and sometimes she sleeps with him for 8 hrs in a day, because as soon as its over he will leave), her daughter is foul to her, and totally disrespects her, but my friend will not have a word said against the married man, and spends all her time with her daughter waiting on her hand and foot, when her daughter clicks her fingers, my friend runs to get whatever the daughter wants (usually food or drink). My friend has no friends apart from me and a neighbour because she doesn't want to socialise, and she has not worked for 22 years because she says she prefers to live off of the state and is worried she wouldn't be available for the married man when he wants to visit if she was working, but now she is so isolated, and lonely, and she wont go to the drs because she is worried she will be sectioned. She lives miles from anywhere, doesn't drive and just lives for the times when the married man visits.
At the moment, she is in alot of debt, and survives financially by offering sexual favours to a friend for cash, and getting her mother to buy her shopping, pay her gas and electric and give her money for tobacco. She is waiting for her mother to sell her house so she can have enough money to pay off her debt. Lots more, but how can i help her?? I've tried talking to her, encouraging her to leave the house to get outside, but she wont even open her windows inside. I really try, but she only wants to stay in and wait for the married man to visit. (He even comes above her family and daughter)

Any advice anyone on my very 1st thread?
Contact the poster See this person's profile Contact mumsnet about this post By blushingm on Thu 20-Nov-08 20:02:25
could you get her doc to possibly go and visit her instead of the other way around - then cpn could come see her too and all try and help.....hope some helps her soon and you sound like a great friend xx


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