I'm completely at a loss to decide and its getting me down - sorry this is long.

[cantmakemymindup]

DH and I have accidently happened upon a house which almost fulfils all our expectations of a 'forever' house.
We live in a perfectly good house in a large village now with a good school and we all have friends here. If we move we will be stretching ourselves financially - at a bad time in the property market- moving to a new place where we know no one, but it would be a home we could bring the children up in forever, we would never need move again. Our current house isn't really big enough for 3 children to have as much space as we'd like, this one has a whole extra floor with 3 bedrooms for the children. There are a couple of things, the new house has a garden about the same as we have at the moment , not at all bad but not as much as we'd hoped for in a forever house and there is parking but no garage,we currently have a whole load of junk in our garage.
I have estate agents coming around all this week to do valuations and it looks like we might be able to afford it but there's no guarantee we'll sell this house soon enough.
I haven't told any of my RL friends, thus namechange, and I'm not exactly sure how to. At one point it looked like we were going to have to move, then DH's job was OK and he's staying where he is, this means if we move its our choice and I sort of feel disloyal to my friends by moving for a house if you see what I mean. i know I'll have to say something if we put the house on the market, the for sale sign will be a bit of a give away, but I'm afraid they will be funny about it and then if we stay here they'll think I'm not as good a friend as they thought as I'm prepared to move away. I know this sounds kind of stupid but i hate awkward situations and i think this might be one - also I'm wondering if this is all because i don't really want to move. i love the house and it's a great opportunity to get the space we need but I'm not wholly convinced about moving away from here although the new area is a part of the world I'm quite fond of. Where we live at the moment we couldn't afford anything bigger. i had PND after my first DC but am much better now so i know I could cope with a change which I couldn't have done in the past but I just don't know.
If anyone has got to the end of this thank you for listening, I just don't know what to do and its getting me a bit stressed and down.

[unicorn123]

All I can say is do what is right for you and your family. If you do decide to move and your friends are real friends they will understand. Also don't stress, it's not good for you.

[jellybelly25]

Ooh it's a big decision, that's why it's getting you down! Don't worry about what your friends think, like unnicorn said if they give you grief over it they;re not really that great friends are they?

I guess it boils down to, on balance, whether the good outweighs the bad in moving.

There will always be other houses you know. I tend to think, reading between the lines, that you're not quite ready and the things you say about the house are quite practical rather than a genuine emotional attachment to it. But that's just what comes across, I may have misinterpreted...

[cantmakemymindup]

Thank you for replying.
i have sort of fallen for the house but i think you're right that I'm not ready to move away I sort of want both really. I want the lovely house but I don't want to move. I suppose also its not about my friends its about me. I still can't bring myself to talk to mybest friend about the fact I might move away - that'snot her its me - if i say so it will be true andmore and more I'm not sure its what i want. I have had esate agents around to the house all week and already I feel I'm sneaking around - not the sort of brhaviour of someone who's committed to moving really.
The thing is I do love the new house and so does DH and it would be great for the children and the newarea..well we moved here knoing no one so we could do it again. I'm just worried if i say to DH I don't want to move we'll never have an opportunity like this again and we'll regret it - I will of course blame myself for whatever the outcome as I'm like that ..that doeasn't help the stress really .
Thanks for listeneing I just need to talk it through and I'm choosing to keep my friends out of the loop so as a result I have no one to talk to about it.