Hi guys, don't really know where to start with this, but I feel my anxiety is taking over my life.
I have always (or at least in the last few years) had anxiety over fear of loss and death. I will not be able to relax unless DH calls/emails me in the morning to let me know he's got to work safely. For every 5 minutes after the time he usually gets home on an evening my anxiety ramps up another level - after 15 minutes I have to call his work to find out what time he left. A couple of times I've com this > < close to calling the police to see if there's been any accidents.
We have three cats and I love them like children, however when they go out I panic if I haven't seen them for more than an hour. I regularly get myself into a panic at the thought of someone poisoning them, or them getting run over / shut in somewhere / attacked by a dog to the extent that I don't let them out, or call them all in and shut the door even on nice days where I know they'd rather be out.
All this has been going on for ages, but 7 weeks ago I gave birth to DS, and my anxiety has ramped up. I am terrified of SIDS to the extent that I'm preoccupied with it. I'll look up all the information I can on the internet and get myself into a right state about it. Obviously I check DS all the time when he's asleep, and generally have him asleep in the room with me during the day, because otherwise I'd be running up and down stairs all day to check he's still breathing. Most of the time I let him sleep in my arms rather than his moses basket so I can keep a constant eye on him. At night I will wake up and listen for breathing every hour or so, and get up if I can't hear anything. Last night I terrified myself by leaping out of bed (I woke DH up who would sleep through an earthquake) because we'd both slept for three and a half hours and I was convinced he was dead - it took all my control to not shake him awake and just check his breathing. I couldn't get back to sleep and lay there for another hour until he woke naturally for his feed.
Obviously as he sleeps longer and longer (which most parents would look forwards to) my anxiety gets more and more. Also he will have outgrown his moses basket in another couple of weeks and I'm in a quandary about what to do - do I put him in his cot in the next door room or buy a larger crib for our room? Chances are I'll end up sleeping on the floor in his room. There's no way we can fit his cot in our bedroom.
I've also (and apologies for this sounding really stupid) been pre-occupied about my thoughts affecting him in a completely illogical way. For two weeks after he was born I couldn't get the song "I hope you die" by the Bloodhound Gang (a silly song - not some serious death metal or anything) out of my head, and was in tears thinking that if he did die that I would have caused it. I just can't stop thoughts of his death popping into my head and thinking that I will cause something to go wrong just by thinking about it.
Sorry I've blathered on for far too long here - I wouldn't have considered myself as having PND, but DH thinks that my anxiety has got much worse since I got pregnant (was terrified all along about miscarriage then stillbirth / complications) and I agree with him that it's affecting my day to day life, and I also don't want him to pick up on my anxiety. The only time I'm every truly relaxed is when all my babies (DH, DS and three cats) are in the room with me.
Essentially what I'm asking is should I mention this to my GP and try and get it sorted? I know every mother has irrational fears for the safety of her child but I feel mine are stupid and overwhelming. I don't want to be dismissed for being a time-waster (another of my anxieties). Realistically is there anything they can do to help me, or will they just tell me to stop worrying and get a life? (which is what I really need to do!).
Sorry for such a long post - it feels much better to have talked about it!
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Naetha · 25/02/2008 16:56
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