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Mental health

Don't know how to explain this without sounding like a self absorbed wallowing in my own self pity whatsit

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KathH · 04/12/2007 21:19

This is long. Sorry. I know compared to most people I dont really have anything to complain about but am finding it really hard at the minute. Have recently been promoted to assistant manager in my dept at work and am really struggling. We deal with deceased estate's so deal with bereaved people and am starting to wake up in the early hours worrying about clients and whether we're doing ok by them. Have 4 children aged 15, 11, 9 & 3 who are causing me various degrees of stress. DH tries to help out but works quite shitty shifts - a lot of nights so am starting feel resentful of that which isnt fair. I guess I dont like the fact I'm at work all day and then come home to sort out the kids while he goes to work. I just dont feel that there's anything to look forward to anymore eg instead of being really excited about Christmas which I usually do it's just another thing that I have to worry about - if I left it to dh then nothing would get done. We're also in a bit of mess financially but luckily my mum has sorted it out for us but its been something else that I've had to sort. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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BeeWiseMen · 04/12/2007 21:27

do you do anything nice just for yourself at all? you're not a bottomless pit of selfless giving you know?

I'm having a go but in a nice way

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KathH · 04/12/2007 21:32

I guess that I dont (not wanting to sound like a matyr!) Just feel like I'm being pulled in so many different directions that I think the one thing I give up is time for me

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BeeWiseMen · 04/12/2007 21:37

is there something you used to do that you've given up because you don't feel you can spare the time or money at the moment?

It's a hard lesson to learn, because it feels so self-indulgent, but doing something utterly selfish for yourself at least once a week is absolutely necessary to your mental wellbeing.

You cannot sup from an empty pot.

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