I dont have time to get over depression again....

[char861]

I cant take anymore just so tired. Im 7 months pregnant still working coz cant afford not to. My ds of 26 mths wont sleep thru the night and gets up really really early. He just cries and I have to take him to hosp for hypospadius repair for a 3rd time in a weeks time and i know he wont sleep there. My dp starts a new job the same week we are in hosp so im all alone. I feel like we dont see each other and i feel like a single mum. I have been to docs who have said they cant put me on ad tabs coz of pregnancy and have referred me to a group at the hosp which i cant go to due to my son being in hosp and me working. Do i sort out my sons sleeping first (which i have no clue how to do) or let him get thru op and try fresh after x mas. Just so scared about 2nd babby coming coz i cant cope wi the little lad i got. thasnk for listening just in a dark place and not sure where to turn

[2sugars]

char, no advice but someone will be along soon. I really feel for you - you mustn't battle alone with this. It's crap that the only help you've been offered is something you can't make. Is there another GP in your surgery? I know when dd2 was born I was made to fill out a form about my mental state (they were looking for signs of PND) and I lied recklessly. I still came out as a borderline case, and when I was told that I struggled to hold back my tears.

You need to get someone who will be a little more proactive for you. I'm assuming you have no family around. Have you spoken to you HV about it? I know some are great and some not so, but tell her what you've told us. You shouldn't have to struggle with this.

Lots of hugs.xxx

[OverRated]

what a lot you have to deal with. You must be exhausted. Can you talk to someone about some of this? Or let someone help you out a bit?

Wish I could be more helpful {{char861}}

[char861]

Thanks for replying. Im just tredding water all the time. i have no family near but only my parents not dps help out whenever they can but they are also legal gaudians of my sistrs 2 kids as my sis has mental health problems and my brother lives with them too. he was a junkie, he's clean at the moment but i cant deal with my family. Do you think hv can talk to me about this?

[fizzbuzz]

You can take ad's when pregnant, because I did.

I saw a maternal physchiatrist when I was pg, because my mum died which led to overwhelming anxiety. Her job was to prescribe for pregnant and bf mums.

Top choice is prozac, followed by amitriptiline, imipramine, or nortriptiline. These are the one which have all the data on them. I was on Amitriptiline. Dd born perfectly normal, and is lovely child at 16 months old.

I would sort out ds's sleep probs after hosp if you can wait that long. However until he goes in can't you and dp alternate nights so one of you gets some sleep

What about Homestart? They may be able to help

[fizzbuzz]

Also, coudln't you go off sick? Coping with all that AND working, is enough to push anyone over the edge

[vacua]

you must be so exhausted

there's some really good advice there, and of course hv will want to help and to listen to you - perhaps through her or GP you can be referred to a specialist like fizzbuzz saw. If it's at all possible I agree about sick leave, I really think you need to put your feet up for a bit and get as much help as you can from anywhere. any local mumsnetters you can hook up with even for just a bit of moral support?

[monkeybutler]

Just to mention to be careful when taking sick leave whilst pregnant as a company is legally allowed to start your maternity leave early if you are off sick for a certain time after a certain month of pregnancy. I dont know the details but I remember reading it when I was pg. Maybe it has changed now and certainly all companies treat the rulings differently. Maybe it is just for a pg related illness I dont know but check with ACAS CAB or your HR department. You will still be entitled for family leave for your DC1 but it will be unpaid which may not be a valid option.

[fizzbuzz]

Yes I rememebr that about sick leave, I think it is 6 weeks before edd.

When are you going on mat leave?

Have to say though, when I went to GP with "problems" when I was pregnant, he did research which ad's were safe and got back to me, so you might not have to be referred, although those on the list are the top ones