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depressed&fed up of being at home with the children!!

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mum2oliver · 28/11/2007 14:58

Im a childminder.I have a dd of 8months and a ds of 3and a half.I childmind my best friends baby of 6months.The "babies" sleep from about half12 til half/3.I need this time to get things done.
My ds is driving me insane as he is bored but if I go the baies dont sleep properly and then in return I end up with2 unhappy babies.Im not saying that I never go out.My ds goes to playschool all morning so its not like he does nothing.
My ds is lacking toys as money was tight and now waiting for xmas.
Iv got to a stage now where Im lacking confidence.I have no social skills.Im bored too.I need some bloody fun in my life.My marriage is okish.I have a handful of friends.I have opportunities to go out but money tight and feel fat and dont like town pubs.I enjoy eating out.
I feel like a bad mother and Im going crazy.
Anyone else feeling like me or can advice or comment really???

ps.I feel ready to get a job now but dont have a career.Im doing my childcare course at college at mo(level2).Id love to work in a playschool but childcare costs not worth it.

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lucyellensmum · 28/11/2007 15:57

you are not alone, we all feel like this from time to time. Do you have a double buggy for the babies? You should try and get out every day if you can - i would go insane if i didnt (oh, hold on - im hardly the most stable woman on mumsnet ). Wrap them all up and take a walk to the park, open space and let DS let off steam.
If he managed to tire himself out, he could possibly have a nap in the afternoon, give you a break.

Is childcare what you are really wanting to do? Maybe you could do some volunteer work at a play group to get some experience, that way you wouldnt be commited to times and could fit this in around any cheap/free childcare made available to you.

You most certainly are not a bad mother, i really admire you because i can just about manage my one daughter, let alone another and someone elses to boot. You are doing a fantastic job.

Its shit when money is tight also (im there believe me). Could you take DS out to collect xmas deccies, fir cones, holly etc - all free - then buy some glitter and make some decorations? Thats a mornings entertainment collecting and a rainy afternoon covered as well - i keep meaning to do this with DD.

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lucyellensmum · 28/11/2007 15:59

you are not alone, we all feel like this from time to time. Do you have a double buggy for the babies? You should try and get out every day if you can - i would go insane if i didnt (oh, hold on - im hardly the most stable woman on mumsnet ). Wrap them all up and take a walk to the park, open space and let DS let off steam.
If he managed to tire himself out, he could possibly have a nap in the afternoon, give you a break.

Is childcare what you are really wanting to do? Maybe you could do some volunteer work at a play group to get some experience, that way you wouldnt be commited to times and could fit this in around any cheap/free childcare made available to you.

You most certainly are not a bad mother, i really admire you because i can just about manage my one daughter, let alone another and someone elses to boot. You are doing a fantastic job.

Its shit when money is tight also (im there believe me). Could you take DS out to collect xmas deccies, fir cones, holly etc - all free - then buy some glitter and make some decorations? Thats a mornings entertainment collecting and a rainy afternoon covered as well - i keep meaning to do this with DD.

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mum2oliver · 28/11/2007 16:09

I childmind the baby full time so cant do experience in a nursery.HAve been offered afternoons at ds nursery and cant wait to do it if have a day off.The mum does supply but is doing full time til xmas.In jan she is hoping to do 3days so it will be better then.Iv just been4 a walk and yes feel a little better.
Thanku for your aadvice.
Is it me or are 3and a half year olds on the go comstantlt.
My friends 2 kids 3 and 2 are always watching tv and sit thru a hole film and then watch it again with out hardly moving.
Is this good?
My ds will watch it for ten mins tops then he is d up and starts beeing bored.He does need to calm down in my opinion.x

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moondog · 28/11/2007 16:14

Hi Mum.
So many of us have been there,we really have.
Good for you for persevering with the qualification amd fpor getting it together enough to do some paid work as well.

Good advice here.A walk never fails to make you feel better (eve if you don't want to go initially) Yes, at that age they are on the go constantly. Your ds sounds very smart. As a speech and lang. therapist I am very worried about the amount if children I see who sit passivley in front of tvs for hours and hours. He has sussed that Real Life is more interesting! Also, don't worry about not having enough toys. Most kids have too many and they dull imaginary play and sontaneity.It's far better for kids to be creative with a small number at a time.

Still,if you fancy a change,go to the library or check out charity shops and freecycle.

Hope the cloud lifts.It did for me even thoguh i would never have believed it at the time.

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mum2oliver · 28/11/2007 16:26

oh goodness I hope so.I feel poo.Thanku guys.Keep it coming people.xx

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moondog · 28/11/2007 16:28

I challenge anyone not to feel a bit crap at this time of year.
Do you have some time for yourself in the evening?
I'd really recommend an aerobics class or swimming.
I've learnt the hard way that exercise is the best way to keep feeling of being down at the mouth at bay.

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