Oh I have had enough of Xmas................join me if you want to moan about it but dont want to spoil others fun

[stoppinattwo]

Where do i start, I hate shopping, I hate all the hype I hate all the greed, I hate all the stress (my life is stressful enough) I hate all the pressure that TV puts on us to buy buy buy!!!.

and it will only get worse. Have just argued with my mate about Not buying presents for each others children - she thinks im being tight when i didnt want to do give that impression at all.

I do however love it for my children, it is magical and you cant beat xmas morning. All i ever want to do is the right thing. I know that the next 6 weeks is gonna be stressful shit and i need help to get through it. I just think things have got so shallow and I know im doing the right thing but I need reminding.

I want christmas to be two things, Simple and special ~(happy memories) nothing more.

Why do things have to be so complicted ??

[Twitmonster]

[sidles in and dumps bags on the floor]

me too.

[sits down and has a mincepie]

[stoppinattwo]

Any spare pies monster??..........whats in the bag??

[Twitmonster]

yes of course, cream?

[kicks bag]

[XAliceInWonderlandX]

may i have one too

please

[southeastastra]

count me in too, it's still november.

[LadyOfWaffle]

Do as I do and refuse to acknowledge it until at least Dec 1st!

[clutteredup]

My best friend's DP has just been diagnosed with cancer, I can't look beyond next week at the moment . I just can't even begin to imagine what Christmas is going to be like for them this year, can we cancel it properly this year?

[Twitmonster]

f'ing partridge in an f'ing pear tree.

tra la la la laaaaa la la la la

[Tnog]

Miserable buggers

Actually, can I join?

[LadyOfWaffle]

Clutteredup {{hugs}}

[Twitmonster]

oh, I'm sorry, what a time to x-post.
I think you really do have to take each day as it comes. [cliche I know, sorry]

[Tnog]

clutterdup, me too.

I have a friend who is dying of cancer.

This will possibly his last one.

Tis hard.

[Twitmonster]

my mum was diagnosed last christmas, it's hard enough at the best of times but some how christmas makes it seem all the worse.

Anyway, please have a mince pie and cream with a little slug of brandy.

[sits back and turns up 'mistletoe & wine] lol

[XAliceInWonderlandX]

hug to everyone here

[Twitmonster]

pull a cracker with me xcup [lol]

[XAliceInWonderlandX]

dont mind if i do

do not even know what is happening at xmas

dd booked on flight to england

[clutteredup]

Christams seems to exacerbate things that are bad at any other time, I guess its all the hype makes you feel like you are supposed to be really happy and feel worse that you're not.
I guess its all been taken out of proportion by the merchandising, it is after all a Christian day of the celebration of Jesus' birth, and should be left at that really.
Thanks for all the hugs, lots of hugs to you too Tnog and twitmonster.

[stoppinattwo]

Oh I am glad its not just me then. Could this be our sanctuary, to come and have a good old moan? Im sick of being a bloody humbug

I just hate all the wonderful homes and happys perfect families portraid (sp???) on the TV. All the pressure etc, and if i see KK on anothe bloody Iceland advert i will fecking scream

[mylittlepudding]

Agree about the exacerbating everything. My mother is in a huff - and I thought last year would be her last, so I feel guilty she is huffy when we should be celebrating, plus dd is 1 on Christmas Eve, ILs are being unreasonable (IM-not-very-HO!), money is tight, memories come back, SAD-type-symptoms kick in... I hate this time of year.

Lots of hugs to you other ladies in the same - and worse- boats

[Shannaratiger]

Totaly agree with u stoppinattwo.
Money is really tight so I am trying to persuade my familly that like DP's we should only buy 4 the children.

to everyone who have family or friends ill at this time of year.

[stoppinattwo]

My mil has just had a huge operation to remove a tumor, I think it has been a big reality check for everyone. I am going to sit down with the children tonight and plan what they would like to do ovet the xmas holidays. I will eplain that if we chose a couple of nice activities to do we can really make the most of our family all being at home for the christmas period.

I will also tell them about the idea of giving to charity rather than shopping blindly for presents, although reassure them that they will get some of the things that they have really wished for from Santa .

If they are disappointed then it is an emotion they will have to handle . Deep down i dont think they will be though. It will be a simple christmas, but hopefully the time spent together as a family doing things will more than make up for all the unwanted grifts that usually end up in the cupboards.

[HiddenIcon]

Oh thank goodness I have ound somewhere to moan.

Perhaps I will feel better in a few weeks but xmas just makes me nervous at the moment.

Dh has not worked for months so we are on our bottoms, to be polite!!

I spent 30 minutes crying last night because of fecking xmas, its so bloody stupid because the boys get spoiled so have an overload of toys.

Its just silly isn't it. I may just pretend to be in the same faith as DH's parents, just for this year?!

On top of that, I am a nervous wreck at the moment [just stopped taking valium] yet still have to face all the xmas festivities ie. nursery PTA parties etc....

[scattyspice]

Good for you stoppin. Remember it doesn't have to be perfect.

All your DCs want for Xmas is a happy mammy.

[stoppinattwo]

Well I took the plunge with Ds tonight and spoke to him about christmas and how it wasnt all about the gifts and how there wouldnt be so much around this year as we had thought it would be nice to make things a little different and do something for someone else. He said thas ok mum, because you know for some kids christmas day is like every other day, and it should be special for them too.

I did do something right somewhere in these last 8 years .

Just got to to try and explain to DD now

[stoppinattwo]

Hiddenicon, hugs btw XXX, please always come here to vent it is hard to be miserable about xmas without feeling like a kill joy.........here you can be as miserable as you please and we will all listen