I have suddenly become very depressed and I have started to harm myself. I don't know why I'm doing this, I've never done it before. I have a baby of a few weeks old, so its probably pnd. I did the questionnaire from the hv and she said it scored high. I lied about the last question asking about thoughts of harming myself - I said never. Despite a high score, there is no follow up, no referral, no help.
I asked my gp for something to help me a couple of weeks ago. She gave me herbal drops. They are not working yet, but she did say it could take up to 3 weeks to work. I saw her yesterday and asked for something stronger as I am really finding things emotionally very, very hard (I didn't tell her about the harming). She won't prescibe me anti-depressants because I'm bf. So I came away feeling like there is nothing that can be done for me.
My 'symptoms' are: constantly on the verge of tears, crying a lot, overwhelming sadness, short temper, tiredness, insomnia, disproportionate anger, excessive swearing, being nasty to my children, low esteem, feeling I'm so bloody useless at everything, thumping myself, hitting myself with a hairbrush and feeling stupid.
I feel I'm in some sort of spiral that I can't control or get out of. My other dc are very difficult at the moment, particularly the oldest one. He is very angry at me. His behaviour is getting out of control, or at least I can't control him. He makes me so angry. And when I'm angry I say such nasty things to him, things which can't be unsaid. I think I've harmed him forever so no wonder he's angry at me. I'm ashamed to say I have even smacked him a few times. I know that is so very, very wrong and quite rightly I'm likely to be vilified. Believe me there is nothing anyone can say that will make me feel worse than I do already. Yes I know I'm nasty and a bully. Since I've been hurting myself, thankfully I haven't had the urge to smack him. It's like I can control that part of me now, thank god. Before all this I think I was a nice person, I certainly had a lovely relationship with my ds. I hope its not gone forever.
What can I do to help myself? I will not, and can't, be telling the hv or gp about the self harming. They both know how I feel apart from that, but I'm not getting much support. Am I supposed to just carry on? I'm scared how this has escalated in the last few weeks and how it might go on. I have arranged through the hv to get the school nurse to 'have a chat' with my son to see if there is anything they can do to help (he's 8). When my anger builds up I try to take myself away from whoever is making me mad. I do try not to cry in front of the children but a lot of the time I can't help it. What else can I do? I hurt myself when I am very tearful, to stop me crying or more usually if I am angry to try to diffuse it I suppose.
I have a supportive dh in terms of childcare, but he has his own depressive illness, so I won't be burdening him. I don't have much family to turn to. I have lots of friends, but they usually come to me for support. I'm surrounded by friends but feel so lonely. I did a search of previous threads about self harming already. Reading through made me feel a bit better, but most people seem to be referring to the past. I can't believe I got to this age and its starting now. What's happening to me? How can I protect my family from me? Sorry to ramble, my mind is a mess. (I have a new name for this, but I have posted before. I'm just so ashamed). Thanks for helping if you can.
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Depressed and starting to hurt myself
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card · 02/11/2007 06:35
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