People just don't understand

[CantCopeWontCope]

I have depression at the moment and feel suicidal every single day. I feel really down. My mother knows this, as does a few close people, but I tell her I am not feeling too happy and she came back today with "you're always fckng p*ssed off, aren't you?". I am really sad as I can't help it. Several members of the family have leaned on my mum recently as they suffer from depression and she's been all over them, offering them a bed for the night, even offering to pay for a holiday for one but whenever I want a little sympathy it's always the same. When I tell her I feel suicidal, it's almost like she doesn't believe I would do it or thinks I am exaggerating.

[NAB3]

God, tell me about it. My FIL once asked my DH what I had to be depressed about. They admit they don't understand depression but don't do anything to try too. Let the fun begin as I am off the tablets now and they think all is okay but don't get it is because I have been on medication.

You need to talk to your mum and say if she can be supportive of other people she can damn well be supportive of her daughter.

[Lulumama]

are you getting any proffesional help , outside the family..? that you cannot make your mum feel differently, but you can get other support

if you are feeling suicidal every day you need immediate help

have you been to your GP

[cheeset]

Hi, I'm sorry you feel like this.

Maybe your mum feels responsible in a guilty mum way?

Maybe she is finding it hard to cope and when you ring her to tell her how hard it is for you, she took the opportunity to return her feelings of desperation at this time?

I may be wrong, just trying to help.

Are you on AD's do you have children?

My friend has suffered from depression for so many years. She rings me all the time and I'm always there for her but sometimes I feel needy myself and i'm not so friendly when I'm feeling down. Maybe it is one of those instances?

Any help?

[CantCopeWontCope]

Thanks for all your help. I'm not getting any professional help. I've had depression for years and the doctor just gives me AD's which make me worse TBH. I'm sick of going to bed at night, praying I don't wake up so this nightmare can be over.

Thing is cheeset, other family members have been to her depressed, just one today too but I came to her today and said how I was feeling and she said that back to me.

[Charlee]

I have bad manic depression and have been through some really dark times.

I would go to your g.p and tell them that your anti d's are not working and making you feel worse, mine were doing the same but i am on new ones now that seem to be working ok for the moment, you could also ask for some councelling then you would have someone to talk to who deos kind of understand.

I find people who don't suffer find depression very hard to comprahend, dp does i know that he is forever saying 'whay are you depressed?' and doesn't get it when i say, i don't know i don't have a reason.

[cheeset]

Sounds as though you are both needy at the moment and I may be wrong, but doesn't depression run in families?

My mum is like this with me. In the last 10yrs my my has not been there as much as she could be IMO. After giving birth 2 both of my babies I had complications and I have had 3 stomache ops, 2 hernias and a appendectomy. My DH and I have had to cope on our own as my mum just couldnt get her act together, she would manage to get to Bingo but not up to help at my house.

I have always been on the depressed side but I am beginning to see a comparrison in my mothers mental state. She finds it hard to deal with things and runs away from it/me.

I am going on a bit, what I'm trying to say is that maybe your mum might be a little burnt out with it all, maybe she's a bit like you but has to be strong but has let you down kid?

Maybe she can't deal with the 'suicide' word. How old is she? I'm so trying to help you but I feel I maybe not helping you?

[cheeset]

Being a SAHM makes me bl depressed. The boredom.......Does Citalopram help?