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I am at the end of my tether

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saltire · 27/09/2007 17:08

The DSes are just about out of control. DS hasn't broguht his homework book home all week because "I forget it". So I get phone calls from the teacher about it. He is not coping well at school, which is rubbing off on me. They come in from school and just , well drive me batty. DS1 came in at 3.30, opened up a huge bag of doritos and started eating them, and said "Yes, and?" when I questioned him about stealing food. Thye packet got thrown on kitchen floor. DS2 did the same, hes had a yoghurt, a bbiscuit and a packet of crisps in the past half hour, again all thrown on the floor. DS1 uses words like knob, freakin etc, which he never used to use. He argues with me about everything. I just want to go to bed and stay there for ever
I feel crap, I have Fibromyalgia, which was quite well under control in Scotland, but I have gone downhill since. The slightest little things causes a flare up. Yesterday it was getting phone calls from DH and RAF about some bloody cheque. When I was speaking to DH about it at night and tried to explain how it had caused a flare up he started going his end about how he can't just leave the military, and how its his job and he needs his job etc etc - all of which was uncalled for IMO. Then he started on about me needing to do more to "help myself". Do more exercise he says. If I do go for a walk, say to the PO then it causes pain and I'm in agony for days, same if I go when I'm already in pain. I take my meds, but I ahve a house to run, two little buggers to look after and part of the illness is confusion, I forget what I'm doing, I forget words in the middle of sentences. I also get chronic fatigue. there are days when I am in so much pain and so bloody tired I just want to stay in bed, but I can't I have to get up and get on with it. I never used to be this bad. I need to get a job, but don't feel like it, I have no energy, I'm sure thats why the DSes are running wild because I have no energy to discipline them, but again, DH thinks I should be able to. I got a book on the subject but he only read the part which says about doing exercise, so thats all he goes on about, he hasn't (won't?) read the rest of it, so has no feckin idea how I feel.
My new GPs are as much use as a chocolate teapot, if I go to them with a problem about the fibro - after waiting weeks to get an appointment, then they just say "wait until you have been to the pain clinic"

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saltire · 27/09/2007 17:08

God that was long. I needed to get that off my chest

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DumbledoresGirl · 27/09/2007 20:04

Oh Saltire, I am so sorry you are going through all this. I can't suggest much beyond what I said in my email to you, but just to reiterate: email me all you like. Sometimes it helps just to write things down.

I could offer all sorts of advice re managing your boys, but I feel that isn't the root of your problems here, the fibromyalgia is. That chocolate teapot of yours needs shaking up.

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Wisteria · 27/09/2007 20:11

Saltire, I am so sorry this is getting so bad for you - with the fibro, there's little to suggest as you've probably tried it all before - have you tried tai chi (the Dr Lam one for arthritis)? It does work well for fibro sufferers.

I use a herbal variety of med , which works wonders in the evening helping me to relax my joints and sleep properly - I admit I haven't been diagnosed with fibro, just chronic pain and a deteriorating spine but the pain clinic told me I have many fibro symptoms as well.

Can you try to cut all stimulants from your diet and anything which has any form of chemical? One of my friends has it really badly and she has found a big improvement now she has gone totally organic and done the tai chi.

HTH but if not just a big (((hug))) for you.. teenagers are the most selfish and thoughtless beings on the planet (generally) x

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saltire · 29/09/2007 21:30

Thanks you two . Sorry it took a couple of days to get back to you, not been feeling up to very much.
Wisteria, I am waiting to see the "pain clinic" then goin gback to GP to get referral to physio, someone else on here suggested acupncture, I am so fed up I mwill try anything. I would like to try reflexology, but finances don't stretch to it just now. I'm at the point where I could quite happily cut off the painful bits, which would leave me with a torso!!!
I have increased the Ad's I take for the pain to see if that helps me feel any better emotionally and phsyically.

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DumbledoresGirl · 29/09/2007 21:32

How are the boys behaving now? And how are you coping with that aspect?

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saltire · 30/09/2007 18:46

DS2 isn't so bad over the weekend, but DS1 is his usual stroppy self. i think I need some coping strategies that enables me to deal with their behaviour whilst dealing with my illness at the same time. His attitude and behaviour are unreal.
DH goes back tonight for his course, so ahve another week of crapness to look forward to. I just feel so down and physically shattered. i was in bed until noon today and slept and still feel like I have run a marathon, both mentally and physically
Thanks though for asking DG, nice to know someones around

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saltire · 02/10/2007 08:03

. They are both screeching their heads off not wanting to go to school today!
Both been awake and up since 4.45am.

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DumbledoresGirl · 02/10/2007 09:10

I hope you shoved them out of the door 5 minutes early then Saltire! Give yourself some time today.

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saltire · 02/10/2007 09:39

I did DG - DS1 says he has a cold! He hasn't, but he just wants the day off because DS2 was off yesterday because he had his trip to A&E. .

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DumbledoresGirl · 02/10/2007 09:40

Trip to A&E? What have I missed?

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saltire · 02/10/2007 09:56

this thread here

I'm just finding it all crap at the minute, and typically it's always worse when DH is away

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DumbledoresGirl · 02/10/2007 10:03

at reaction of hospital doctor. I would definitely do something about ds's vision. How worrying for you.

Are things really worse when dh is away or does it just feel that way? Is he back at the weekend?

I am sorry, I am hopeless at suggesting practical advice. I used to live an hour from where you are and could have offered some proper support, but now all I can do is let you know your woes have not passed unnoticed.

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