i don't even know where to begin, well here's a list of what's gone on in my life
mum and dad split up due to mum sleeping with somebody else and getting pregnant, my dad only found out when my brother was 2 (i'm about 4)
mum slept around but eventually settled for brothers dad who is an alcoholic
alcoholic starts playing mind games (i can't go into details as it'd take too long and it's upsetting but really bad hurtful lasting mind games)
sexually abussed by step dads friend at a pub, he pleaded guilty when it came out but got let off
step dad still takes us the same pub and his friends still there but nothing more happened
mind games by step dad get worse, he tries to also physically attack but my mum does nothing about it
in my teenage years i became depressed, didn't have many friends
mum sleeps around behind step dads back, he kind of knows what's going on and takes it out on me with more mind games and some physical violence
after school i got some friends and started going out at weekends drinking
one night i got really drunk and was raped, it was the night before my mum's birthday and i got told i'd spoilt her birthday by step dad
a year later met dp and fell in love
got pg and moved out at 18
at 19 had a beautiful girl, bf everythings fine
3 days old we take her back to a different hospital as she's become very ill, nobody believes us and we're left for over 3 hours. paediatrician finally looks at her and we're taken out of the room. next time we see her she's on all the machines fighting for life as she has a massive cardiac condition. i really thought my world was ending i never thought she'd survive
dd1 was transfered to another hospital, as she was in multiple organ failure they had to build her up for 2 weeks for her 11 1/2 hr op. she came out and again i thought she was going to die, she was like an ice block. it's strange that dd1 had more doctors and nurses around her both times she was in bad ways more than any other patient i've seen on picu.
it took them 2 weeks to be able to close her chest as she'd swelled up that much. soon after she was out of picu, she spent another 5 weeks just in the cardiac ward before coming home but even when she was home she's still poorly and hard work
we kept getting told her heart wasn't doing well and she needed another heart op but they dragged it out as long as they could and her 2nd heart op was when she was 1 (i was convinced she wasn't going to survive her 2nd heart op). it was another bad time but that op has made all the difference she's so much better now
we decided to have another baby. 1st pg was a mc, 2nd i had a little girl who was 11 weeks early after my waters went. she was in hospital for 10 weeks. she's doing well now and it's her birthday today.
so now i have 2 beautiful dd's. dd1 is really behind with her learning, she's just been accepted to the sn nursery. dd2 is a very hard clingy baby who has a very bad temper. i'm completely exhausted now and feel like crap even though i've got my girls and dp. i'm not getting any help with it all though i get promised help but there's no help coming.
i feel really angry with the whole world and often think why has all this happened to me? i keep crying again and i hate feeling this weak. my family isn't here for me and i think it's because dd1 has sn (also my mum wasn't really here for me when i was growing up, never did any mothering things and showed me love). it really does hurt me. i can't be bothered calling them anymore as they never call me. nobody is here for me but anytime somebody needs me i've always helped them but i won't anymore.
anyways, is there any way of getting over all these things? i'm thinking of asking to go on ad but dp is against this. i don't want councelling (even though i think if it was offered when dd1 was first ill i would have coped better with everything but it wasn't). i just no i can't go on feeling like this anymore
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kreamkrackers · 13/07/2007 00:35
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