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Mental health

feeling a bit silly

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littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 20:57

Becouse i am not bepressed, just fed up.
My dh is a head chef, and works long hours, somtimes 6 days a week, in about 6 weeks they are opening a new resturant, of which he will also be head chef, doubling his work load. We live about an hour away from my family so that he can be near to work (5 min walk).
I go to a mother and baby group, baby swimming and aqua arobics, so that i can get out of the house.
I am feeling very fed up, i have a few friend where we live, but most dont have children or we go out as couples.
I also had to stop work at 25 weeks pg becouse of back problems that from 35 weeks left me unable to leave the house on my own and spend 3 days in hospital where they put me on tramadol (sp), so became very isolated.

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justamum · 04/10/2006 22:10

You're not silly, most people would be a bit down in your shoes. I have plenty of family support and still feel utterly desolate sometimes. My DH works long hours and is often away and it is so hard, especially the hours that a head chef has to put in. Where are you? I'm sure there will be someone on here in your area who will meet up with you, i am in the w mids. Look on the meet up threads. I have the same problem with friends, most work so there is little company available in the daytime. I go back to work at the end of this month and whilst half of me is dreading leaving the kids, i am half looking forward to some adult company. having said that the girl I am jobsharing with has just returned from mat leave and my boss has a 10mnth old grandaughter so we'll probably end up talking babies all the time.
Does DH know you are fed up- is there anything he could or would do to reduce his workload?

littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 22:28

told him, dont think he realy understands, and how can he, he has never had ds for more than a coulple of hours on his own, he sees different people all the time.
No chance of him cutting his hours, its all go at the moment.
It never bothered me in the past as have always worked.
I try to go somewhere every day, even if its just for a walk, but days like today when it has rained most of the day i end up stuck at home.

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justamum · 04/10/2006 23:07

thats the thing isn't it, they presume that they have it harder being so busy at work when they have absolutely no conception of what it is like being at home with babies & toddlers.
Tonight my DH didn't want to talk to me, he just "needed some peace and quiet" which is fair enough but I have barely spoken to another adult all day.
Rainy days are hard, I always seem to end up in town spending money I don't have.
Did you have to give up work altogether or are you going back? Is your back better?

QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 23:09

Is there anything you can busy yourself with at home?

littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 23:15

back is f**d. cant spend to long sat dowm or walking around, so on the move most of the time.
got to have physio for 3 months then maybe injections.
Seeing a women about nappy sales next week, i need to do somthing, i am going mad.
Trying to keep busy at home but ds wants my full attention and i am fed up of looking at the same 4 walls.
I know i have things that people only dream about, but i dont have my famly near by.

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QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 23:16

any MNers nearby to keep you company?

littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 23:19

its the only thing keeping me sane at the moment.
Most days i am ok, its days like today that are hard.

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nappiesLaGore · 04/10/2006 23:27

IME feeling silly about feeling low only makes it worse, coz its just another way to feel bad... be kind to yourself. always. then, if anyone lese is, its just a bonus

btw, trying to be light-hearted, rather than flippant. i know how easy it is to sink into low-ness when youre isolated and sleep deprived.

nappiesLaGore · 04/10/2006 23:28

'anyone else'

durrr

littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 23:40

I hate feeling like this, people in rl seem to think that i am a stong person that can cope with anything, and just gets on with things. maybe thats why i feel silly, its almost like what have i got to be fed up over?

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littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 23:42

god this is making me sound like a miserable cow.

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QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 23:43

your not a miserable cow... your just bored with sitting at home! Nothing unusual about that hun x

nappiesLaGore · 04/10/2006 23:44

good lord, those words could have come right out of my own mouth! so thats both of us feeling the exact same way. at least we're not alone, huh?

truth is, you are strong. and you are also soft and need TLC and sleep and stuff too. cause we are, in fact, human. youre not weak, youre human.

littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 23:45

sleep??????????????????
whats that then?

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littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 23:48

shpuld prob go to bed, baby boy is not well, teething, cot a cold, all the same time, poor little lamb.

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QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 23:50

you'll feel better for it... I have to wait until DH is home...

nappiesLaGore · 05/10/2006 00:00

ahhhhh, thats your answer then.

you and i should both be in bed now while the chance is there (obv, diff beds, sounds likea come on! hahaha)

nappiesLaGore · 05/10/2006 00:01

Night night!

QuootieSpookypie · 05/10/2006 00:02

hehe! Night!

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