sorry in advance for long posting
Am currently awaiting arrival of no. 2. DD is 2 1/2. Usually work full time in demanding job, job security very shaky at the minute due to circumstances beyond my control - I have a job till next summer, beyond that not sure, have to apply for new job in Dec/Jan.
DH also in related job, again his job security not great, applying for new posts with longer term security at present. Works long hours and frequent weekends/nights.
Have been off work since August awaiting new arrival. DD at home with me most days, at nursery 2 days per week as will be going back full time next year and didn't want her to get out of the swing of it/lose friends. Fab nursery, cousins also attend, baby will be going there.
Have biggish house and 2 dogs to look after also.
Past couple of weeks just feel like I am drowning a lot of the time. Getting really really irritable and crabby, sick of doing everything, sick of house permanently being a mess, sick of DH, sick of DD, sick of dogs, sick of being PG and unable to tie my bloody shoes, generally utterly useless and crap mother...and so on...
Often have a good day/good morning etc where all fine, then like this afternoon I'll try to do something really simple like take the dogs and toddler for a walk (have to take them out at least once a day) and I will want to murder all of them. The dogs cause they are pulling on their leads and want to run off and play in the woods, the DD cos she is beetling behind looking for leaves etc (generally being really cute and lovely and I just want to scream 'hurry up...'
Got back in the car and felt so angry and panicky and stressed. Then got home, she is now happily glueing and cutting stuff in the kitchen and her mummy is feeling anxious and stressed out.
Felt like this after DD was born for a long time, looking back ?PND, got better eventually on its own. Feel a bit like have baby blues without the baby.
Don't feel like can talk to DH about this - have tried before and it just makes me feel more of a failure - he is very supportive and says 'just tell me what I can do etc., phones to see if I'm ok etc etc' but in reality he needs to be doing all the work stuff at the minute and is already working bloody hard at work. And I should be able to cope with simple day to day living without falling to pieces. God, I only have one child at the minute and can't even cope with her. How am I going to cope with two, and apply for jobs like I will have to in December? And go back to work in Feb full time? No other options re work other than not working, and being a SAHM really isn't appealing to me at the minute.
At the end of my tether. Don't want to go to GP. Don't want to talk to DH. What do I do???
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wheatbag · 28/09/2006 14:11
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