how do how to get my husband to admit hes depressed without him being angry about it

[lovehearts2]

Atm, We are going thru some probs of our marriage... (there's is 2 posts of mine that I've posted in the last nearly 3 wks)...... I'm being told by a few people inc his mum that he's depressed and so do i. (I'm booked in for my counselling for depression that I've had for many years that I've had before i met my husband).

he also been confiding in an old friend of his, a woman, who is also my friend and also a good friend with my best mate. My best mate had told her my side of story yesterday and she said that she reckons he's depressed and needs to go to a marriage counselling of some sort. She took him and me off fb cos he is constantly texting her for advices about us and vice versa. She got nothing to say anymore and told him to back off.

ive mentioned the word depression 3 times to husband and he totally denied it saying everything in control. He walked out of house last week to go for a 5 mins drive to calm down cos my 5 yr old dd had a bad tantrum. he also said to me "ive asked my mum and my best mate (male) if I'm depressed and they said no. (dont know when he asked them...maybe at the beginning of our talk i had with husband nearly 3 wks ago).......what!???? Its screaming out 'depressed' to me as he asked people if he is...if he wasn't it would never crossed his mind and plus i live with him, been with him for nearly 14 yrs. And u can put a face on in front of family and friends if u are depressed.

ive not mentioned depression now. But maybe his mum should? As she told me last week he's depressed and looking like a tramp and lost loads of weight and got a beard. He goes thru phases of having a beard and not having a beard.

help!!

[TheSilveryPussycat]

Do you mean you have posted on Relationships or somewhere, before MH?

I thought my Ex was depressed - and he may well have been - and I even suggested it. He looked like a tramp, did little work or housework, and argued with me. Depressed or not, he was a twunt. I hope yours isn't.